It's not THAT bad. Yes, it's probably very cliché, but it's supposed to be. It played with stereotyping, it showed - in ways that could have been a lot clearer and less "haha, funny" but wasn't because that wasn't the movie they wanted to make - the problems of lesbian couples being seen as COUPLES by most of their surroundings and constantly having to defend their relationships, wherever they go. You could probably (and maybe should) make a drama out of that feature, but this wasn't the movie for it. So they made it a laugh, but eh... *I* got the point.
As another cliché, when someone acts and moves and talks like the biggest alpha-male in the world, it doesn't automatically make them a bad person. My brother used to wear all black, chains and big metal-covered boots and studs and has tats all over this body, no hair on his head but a big manly beard. He's the friendliest, most helpfull person you could find, and he had a laugh when people feared he'd eat their babies. Still - people crossed the road when he walked past.
Overall, it was funny and a bit sad, but enjoyable to watch, but you should really not expect anything award-worthy.
I agree with posters before that there wasn't that much chemistry between the leads, but if I want to watch light entertainment, I really don't care that much. I just play pretend that we get the chemistry behind closed doors.
25 Reviews
Loved it and Annoyed by it
GunnersMate7 March 2018
Simply loved so many aspects of this movie. David Tennant, Faye Marsay, and Sarah Parish were nothing less than brilliant; you couldn't take your eyes off them when they were on screen. Add to that the genuinely true-to-life moments of humor and deep pain - the reasons that we go to the movies in the first place - and the result is a sharing of the human condition and seeing what connects even the most different of us. The reasons to love this movie.
Then there are the reasons that this fils is so annoying...While Lucy Punch was competent as the solid core of the film, her complete lack of chemistry with Marsay held the film back from truly shining. Add to that a script that had a pair of contrived moments for every brilliant one and enough f-bombs to prove the lack of dialog inspiration and the foundation for the movie to be annoying were firm laid.
Daisy Aitkins direction was alternately spot-on and muddled, but the wonderful moments were enough to make me want to see her next project. Oh...and seeing Georgia, Olivia, and Wilfred Tennant make ridiculously blonde, beautiful, and hilarious cameos were a nice perk too.
Then there are the reasons that this fils is so annoying...While Lucy Punch was competent as the solid core of the film, her complete lack of chemistry with Marsay held the film back from truly shining. Add to that a script that had a pair of contrived moments for every brilliant one and enough f-bombs to prove the lack of dialog inspiration and the foundation for the movie to be annoying were firm laid.
Daisy Aitkins direction was alternately spot-on and muddled, but the wonderful moments were enough to make me want to see her next project. Oh...and seeing Georgia, Olivia, and Wilfred Tennant make ridiculously blonde, beautiful, and hilarious cameos were a nice perk too.
It's not funny, but it's an ok watch.
Sleepin_Dragon23 October 2020
First of all, the ten star reviews, were they written by cast members? No way on this Earth is this a perfect movie.
Pluses, the cast. Marsay and Punch are both pretty good, they manage to lift the script somewhat because they are both damn fine actresses. The mouse is cute.
Negatives, just about everything else. It's a hideous script, some of the lines are cringe worthy.
Question, has David Tennant ever looked more incredibly sexy than he does here? Oh my god the man is glorious, I am slightly surprised he agreed to do this.
Decent, 5/10.
Pluses, the cast. Marsay and Punch are both pretty good, they manage to lift the script somewhat because they are both damn fine actresses. The mouse is cute.
Negatives, just about everything else. It's a hideous script, some of the lines are cringe worthy.
Question, has David Tennant ever looked more incredibly sexy than he does here? Oh my god the man is glorious, I am slightly surprised he agreed to do this.
Decent, 5/10.
Unadulterated Tripe!
john-3623224 February 2018
David, David, David - do you not read scripts before you agree to appear in childish panto? The only redeeming contribution to this pile of excrement is the casting director - she / him must have a touch of genius to attract good character actors to sign up to a life un-enhancing period of agony before the camera, the faster this is buried and Ms Aitkens gets back to her media studies degree the better.
Overall incredibly disappointed
lilven4 January 2018
I was very excited to see this as I am a big fan of David Tennant, but sadly this film left me with a sinking feeling by the time it was over.
The good: I am amazed they were able to make this film with a budget of under $160,000. That is incredible and I give the filmmakers huge kudos for that. There were also several good to great performances. Faye Marsay was wonderful, as were David Tennant and Sarah Parrish. And I even laughed once or twice.
The bad: The writing was not good. It doesn't matter how top notch the talent is, the writing dragged them down. There were moments that were just so ridiculous (and not in a good way) that my suspension of disbelief was compromised and I just kept repeating: this is awful, who thought this was a good idea, etc.
Another big problem I had was that there was very little chemistry between the two main characters (supposedly lesbians in a loving relationship). We don't see much evidence of this at all (it was more being told something vs being shown something). The women hardly touched, hardly kissed, and most of the time didn't seem like they even liked each other. For a romantic comedy, there was not a lot of romance. Instead we start the film at two truly horrible decisions being made that should make any sane person turn tail and run from such dysfunction. Most of the film has the two people not even talking let alone trying to fix their relationship. By the end of the film there is a voiceover sort of giving a recap and it's not clear whether the two are even together. I don't consider it a successful romcom if you can't see whether two people are together, but need to wait until you are told whether they are or aren't. Again, I blame the writing and directing choices.
I debated whether or not to include a spoiler, and I won't. BUT there is an event that happens in the film that made me so angry to have watched it, because I thought I was going to be watching an edgy though fun and light hearted romcom. It was traumatic and heartbreaking and not implied in any official chatter around the film. I almost stopped watching right then and there. This film is being sold as a rom-com, but people should know going into it that it is in no way fun or light hearted.
The good: I am amazed they were able to make this film with a budget of under $160,000. That is incredible and I give the filmmakers huge kudos for that. There were also several good to great performances. Faye Marsay was wonderful, as were David Tennant and Sarah Parrish. And I even laughed once or twice.
The bad: The writing was not good. It doesn't matter how top notch the talent is, the writing dragged them down. There were moments that were just so ridiculous (and not in a good way) that my suspension of disbelief was compromised and I just kept repeating: this is awful, who thought this was a good idea, etc.
Another big problem I had was that there was very little chemistry between the two main characters (supposedly lesbians in a loving relationship). We don't see much evidence of this at all (it was more being told something vs being shown something). The women hardly touched, hardly kissed, and most of the time didn't seem like they even liked each other. For a romantic comedy, there was not a lot of romance. Instead we start the film at two truly horrible decisions being made that should make any sane person turn tail and run from such dysfunction. Most of the film has the two people not even talking let alone trying to fix their relationship. By the end of the film there is a voiceover sort of giving a recap and it's not clear whether the two are even together. I don't consider it a successful romcom if you can't see whether two people are together, but need to wait until you are told whether they are or aren't. Again, I blame the writing and directing choices.
I debated whether or not to include a spoiler, and I won't. BUT there is an event that happens in the film that made me so angry to have watched it, because I thought I was going to be watching an edgy though fun and light hearted romcom. It was traumatic and heartbreaking and not implied in any official chatter around the film. I almost stopped watching right then and there. This film is being sold as a rom-com, but people should know going into it that it is in no way fun or light hearted.
You, Me, and Him - Review
emmaziff6 June 2018
Warning: Spoilers
SPOILER: Beware of distressing stillbirth scene. I went to see this film with my partner. Everywhere we read that it is a comedy about a couple having a family. No where on the internet did it say anything about stillbirth. We were horrified when this scene came up as six months earlier, due to medical negligence, our baby died during labour. We ran out of the cinema distraught as the words and scene were identical to us. This absolutely should have been mentioned in the promo. It's an important subject but was very raw for us!
Poor
gemmamcdermott5 July 2019
I did not get my hopes up for this film and it was still below my expectations. The plot line was extremely poor and the acting was ridiculously bad! Some scenes in this film added little to nothing to the over all story and that gave it a tacky feel! As someone who is part of the LGBT community, this film showed Lesbians in a bad way, almost suggesting that lesbian couples are dependent on a man in one way or another! David Tennant's character was the worst
I do not and will not be recommending this film!
I do not and will not be recommending this film!
A movie with wit, charm and honesty
o_jones-3639515 January 2018
I loved it! Absolutely fabulous!
I mean I finished the film thrilled (and dabbing my eyes) because it was way better than my expectations. I think it's one of the best romantic comedies that I've seen in a long time. It's so funny yet so sad, just like life! It's so good to watch something that feels raw and honest and yet still makes you giggle. There was so much vulnerability to the script. This is where cinema should go.
I'm so glad that it was made in the UK because the US would have drowned out so much of the sincerity. The film was so, so good. I connected with every character and fell in love with them all. I was there and felt the pain, happiness, and love.
It's fantastic to see a lesbian relationship not treated with sugar-coated, kid gloves, but like a real, living and breathing human relationship - and all the crap that comes with that. Olivia and Alex have terrific chemistry which is undeniable. David Tennant needs to do more comedy.
I laughed, I cried... it moved me! Ten stars!
I mean I finished the film thrilled (and dabbing my eyes) because it was way better than my expectations. I think it's one of the best romantic comedies that I've seen in a long time. It's so funny yet so sad, just like life! It's so good to watch something that feels raw and honest and yet still makes you giggle. There was so much vulnerability to the script. This is where cinema should go.
I'm so glad that it was made in the UK because the US would have drowned out so much of the sincerity. The film was so, so good. I connected with every character and fell in love with them all. I was there and felt the pain, happiness, and love.
It's fantastic to see a lesbian relationship not treated with sugar-coated, kid gloves, but like a real, living and breathing human relationship - and all the crap that comes with that. Olivia and Alex have terrific chemistry which is undeniable. David Tennant needs to do more comedy.
I laughed, I cried... it moved me! Ten stars!
Well intentioned but IMO disappointing. Possible part spoiler
oz_rain_walker2 July 2018
Warning: Spoilers
Some hectic positive PR on social media by those closely involved and by fans of those people, is understandable but, for me, the film lacks enough of what it takes to elevate it to the ranks of the very good. The basic plot and sub plots, contemporary in tone, give rise to the potential for character development and also for witty, sometimes acerbic ripostes, and even several challenging viewpoints. Some of these potentials are realised while others fall with a bit of a clang. As for the unexpected twist, it came as no surprise to me, and I'm certainly not psychic! It was well handled and beautifully acted. The cast is mostly impressive, especially David Warner, Gemma Jones and Sarah Parish who are outstanding. The Who family, indeed, is strongly represented in general, which may or may not be always a good thing. But something doesn't gel. As others have said, strangely, the main pairing have little to no chemistry with each other so, for me, their very relationship defies credulity and I found it hard to care about either of them. David Tennant, who could never turn in a less than committed performance, does a sterling job but is ultimately wasted. Honestly, any competent actor between 30 and 50 could have played John. Being the Name needed, I presume, to encourage investors, is all very well but I hope it does not come with too high a price in time and effort. I've seen several of Ms Aitkin's short films and have found each of them to be thought-provoking, entertaining, well conceived, well written and well made. This is apparently her first full length feature. While it left me feeling mostly less than exhilarated, she is definitely a talented new film maker with real potential, having a distinctive wit along with a strong eye for the foibles of the human condition. I wish her every good fortune for her future in the industry.
Very forgettable.
d-garutti1 January 2018
Faye Marsay stole the show in here, a not-so-feel-god comedy drama that will most likely go unnoticed by most. It has some strengths in funny moments but it's definitely not enough.
Enjoyment: 4/10 Relevance: 2/10 Acting: 3/10 Script: 3/10
Final grade: 4/10
Enjoyment: 4/10 Relevance: 2/10 Acting: 3/10 Script: 3/10
Final grade: 4/10
Couldn't get passed 20 minutes
spamade30 June 2019
Highly original feature debut!
mmclennan-9291822 January 2018
What could possibly go wrong when you combine a gay couple (one a career driven lawyer - Lucy Punch, the other a pot-smoking, fun loving layabout - Faye Marsay ) and throw in their neighbour, an annoying bearded Casanova (David Tennant)? Answer - quite a lot.
I really enjoyed this inventive funny debut feature by writer/director Daisy Aitkens. Well worth checking out!!
I really enjoyed this inventive funny debut feature by writer/director Daisy Aitkens. Well worth checking out!!
What was the point?
felicityburrows-flower4 August 2019
There's no chemistry from the start between the "couple" and it all goes down hill from there. It definitely isn't a comedy either, more a tragedy. Can't believe such talented actors would have somehow consented to be in this mess.
A comedy that will make you both laugh and cry
lameconi1 January 2018
Warning: Spoilers
I was able to watch the movie, at last! And I can say it is a really good comedy, You must watch it as it is really worthy.
David always amazes me for his versatility, he can play both drama and comedy effertlessy and he reminds me Cary Grant for this peculiarity. ...he made the role of John his own, I was worried to be distracted by the beard, piercing and hypster's look, but I wasn't a bit. It was all part of the character, just in appearance frivolous.He was brilliant! Nina Sosanya and Sarah Parish always a delight to watch, Sarah was a surprise as I know her in serious roles. The team ladies have good chemistry and, especially Lucy Punch was good and also Simon Bird as her brother. Appropriate music and lovely cameos by the Tennant's clan.
One scene *LIGHT SPOILER* made me remind a sad period of my life. I rarely saw it (if never) on movies in all its rawness. I sobbed, but it was, finally cathartic.
A word for Daisy Aitkens. I get this is her first movie as director, apart a couple of shorts. The girl has talent, she already seems a veteran, good shots, perfect edit, as they talk about equality, this is a case of a female director that should be given more opportunities. Bravo! There was just a few (luckily) moans on socials by some claiming to be LGBT that went so far to bully/harassing people on tumblr/other socials just because those people loved You,Me&Him and shared stills/gifs. An idiot stays an idiot, male, female, LGBT or whatsoever, still an idiot if the main purpose is to bully unknown people on socials. Not going to waste further time on it.
.Better to be clear: This movie is a comedy, not a documentary, it doesn't mean to teach a lesson, and albeit what are the main characters, this is a movie about maternity. And a decent movie, too. People need to keep polemics for more serious things.
And this movie made made melaugh, but also cry. 4star from my humble person
David always amazes me for his versatility, he can play both drama and comedy effertlessy and he reminds me Cary Grant for this peculiarity. ...he made the role of John his own, I was worried to be distracted by the beard, piercing and hypster's look, but I wasn't a bit. It was all part of the character, just in appearance frivolous.He was brilliant! Nina Sosanya and Sarah Parish always a delight to watch, Sarah was a surprise as I know her in serious roles. The team ladies have good chemistry and, especially Lucy Punch was good and also Simon Bird as her brother. Appropriate music and lovely cameos by the Tennant's clan.
One scene *LIGHT SPOILER* made me remind a sad period of my life. I rarely saw it (if never) on movies in all its rawness. I sobbed, but it was, finally cathartic.
A word for Daisy Aitkens. I get this is her first movie as director, apart a couple of shorts. The girl has talent, she already seems a veteran, good shots, perfect edit, as they talk about equality, this is a case of a female director that should be given more opportunities. Bravo! There was just a few (luckily) moans on socials by some claiming to be LGBT that went so far to bully/harassing people on tumblr/other socials just because those people loved You,Me&Him and shared stills/gifs. An idiot stays an idiot, male, female, LGBT or whatsoever, still an idiot if the main purpose is to bully unknown people on socials. Not going to waste further time on it.
.Better to be clear: This movie is a comedy, not a documentary, it doesn't mean to teach a lesson, and albeit what are the main characters, this is a movie about maternity. And a decent movie, too. People need to keep polemics for more serious things.
And this movie made made melaugh, but also cry. 4star from my humble person
One dimensional characters and tone deaf tackling of important issues
knightseclectic4 October 2020
Warning: Spoilers
I wanted to enjoy this film, a good cast and an attempt at raising important issues in a light hearted way.
I did not enjoy it. The characters were one dimensional which made it difficult to relate to them, the relationships weren't believable and there was no chemistry between anyone in the film. I found it hard to believe the female leads as a couple as they were barely near each other and rarely showed any real love or care.
Spoiler.....
The worst part for me was the shameless use of stillbirth as a plot device. This emotive issue was plonked into the middle of what was supposed to be a light hearted film and done properly could have raised awareness of this sad reality that touches so many families. It was treated as a catalyst to wrap up the film and the baby was never acknowledged again by either parent....just sad and unrealistic. Overall it's disappointing that these actors tackled these issues in such a shallow and meaningless way.
The worst part for me was the shameless use of stillbirth as a plot device. This emotive issue was plonked into the middle of what was supposed to be a light hearted film and done properly could have raised awareness of this sad reality that touches so many families. It was treated as a catalyst to wrap up the film and the baby was never acknowledged again by either parent....just sad and unrealistic. Overall it's disappointing that these actors tackled these issues in such a shallow and meaningless way.
Not funny
phignett@hotmail.com28 August 2020
I don't believe any of the ppl in the movie are comedy actors and it shows, along with an unfunny script and story. Give it a miss. Performances were very flat, no chemistry between the characters and I am not sure if any of the leads are Gay in real life but they sure didn't come across as a believable couple. Tenant did his best and for that I give the 3 stars.
Glossy, somewhat entertaining, and quite forgettable
bsw036 May 2021
Warning: Spoilers
Elements were enjoyable, in particular the cast, the set locations, and photography. Some of the acting and emotional responses were a bit forced for comedic sake (and not very funny) and the lack of communication between the couple would signal to me that the lack of trust merited counseling.
What I found disappointing was the use of stillborn as a device to clear one complication (a second pregnancy) out of the way. It would have been nice to see the grieving parents turn their grief into growth that benefited the surviving child through increased cooperation as one of the two main characters is experiencing loss. Especially if one parent felt the way they did about the other as written in the script. I thought the father of the baby was treated pretty poorly by the script (and couple). Empty promises of Unclehood come across as pandering and easy character write off to me.
What I found disappointing was the use of stillborn as a device to clear one complication (a second pregnancy) out of the way. It would have been nice to see the grieving parents turn their grief into growth that benefited the surviving child through increased cooperation as one of the two main characters is experiencing loss. Especially if one parent felt the way they did about the other as written in the script. I thought the father of the baby was treated pretty poorly by the script (and couple). Empty promises of Unclehood come across as pandering and easy character write off to me.
Funny, charming and witty new Brit rom com
bluerinse-947089 January 2018
No spoilers here. This is just the best fun ever. Well done Showtime for snapping it up. Written and helmed by Daisy Aitkens it does what it's supposed to; makes 'em laugh, makes 'em cry. But mainly laugh. With a rumoured budget of only $3million God knows how they managed it. I guess if you get the script right the good actors will follow and the young Brit pack guys seem to have piled in here. David Tenant, Lucy Punch and Fay Marsay headline an excellent cast aided and abetted by the usual gang of oh so polished and subtle UK character actors that we expect in these Downton days.
It is about two women, a couple couple, who despite being total opposites, go together as comfortably as yin and yang symbols. One is the business woman with her sharp suits and mind, the other an anguished artist with seemingly permanent artists block. Their warmth, vulnerability and loving humor gives the movie its whole feelgood thing.
Then they get pregnant at the same time.
And there is the third side to the triangle in the form of David Tenant who goes into a hilarious new high gear as the neighbour from one of the outer suburbs of hell.
But no more. Go see, have a great laugh and take a tissue.... For the tears thank you people!
It's really bad.
wonky_donkey-751226 March 2024
Id struggle to find another film I've seen that's so bad.
There are some good actors in it, let down by some incredibly wooden actors I've never heard of, like the female lead. She gives "same character in all roles" vibes.
The two lead females are entirely unbelievable as a same sex couple.
It's not funny, like at all and the writing is weird. It's almost like it was written for an American cast and audience but for unknown reasons someone said "let's do it British" and it doesn't work.
Right off the bat shes walking through a little market town narrating about labels groups of people fall into when she clocks a group of about 5 "bankers".
.... In a small town?? Bankers hanging out in large groups in generic middle England?
It's all wrong and painfully unfunny.
I only persisted somewhat because David Tenant was in it but I had to stop.
It was just too bad.
There are some good actors in it, let down by some incredibly wooden actors I've never heard of, like the female lead. She gives "same character in all roles" vibes.
The two lead females are entirely unbelievable as a same sex couple.
It's not funny, like at all and the writing is weird. It's almost like it was written for an American cast and audience but for unknown reasons someone said "let's do it British" and it doesn't work.
Right off the bat shes walking through a little market town narrating about labels groups of people fall into when she clocks a group of about 5 "bankers".
.... In a small town?? Bankers hanging out in large groups in generic middle England?
It's all wrong and painfully unfunny.
I only persisted somewhat because David Tenant was in it but I had to stop.
It was just too bad.
An honest review of You, Me and Him.
wundergurl13 November 2022
Warning: Spoilers
This was definitely not a comedy. It definitely wasn't romance either. The women who are supposed to be in love can't even stand each other most of the time. John has way more chemistry with Alex than Olivia(her gf) does. It would've honestly been a better move if John and Alex had gotten together by the end. This movie is extremely political as well. Olivia calls John a misogynistic straight man; despite how he cares about Alex and other women. Sure, he's not good with women but that's because nobody taught him how and he's just a dorky guy. Olivia only hates John because he was able to sway Alex in having feelings for him. She complains about everything and is completely unfair and rude when Alex loses her baby. John and Alex care more about each other than Olivia and Alex do. Overall, not a good movie. Unfunny, characters went in the opposite direction they wanted, and it's just weird how political they made it for no reason.
Heart warming comedy
fabio-vollono-606-31889831 March 2018
I was fortunate to watch "You, Me and Him" at a screening this week and must say it was a delightful British comedy with a much more current twist on the usual rom-com. A stellar cast that made me laugh out loud, but also shed a tear. Go and see it, highly recommended.
Laugh out loud funny, with a tinge of tears
timpenhale-jones27 February 2018
This is a great film. Great cast, great (unexpected) storyline, in the vain of Bridget Jones / Love Actually.
Fast paced, witty and funny, but with thoughtful twists and heart wrenching turns, this is a film that will become a classic in the 'Great British Gems' genre...it will be shown every year at Xmas and everyone will watch it over and again.
A slow burner that will become one of the great LGBT films in time.
Fast paced, witty and funny, but with thoughtful twists and heart wrenching turns, this is a film that will become a classic in the 'Great British Gems' genre...it will be shown every year at Xmas and everyone will watch it over and again.
A slow burner that will become one of the great LGBT films in time.
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