Your Place or Mine (2023) User Reviews

What happened?!

[sonja-08114 · 5/10 · 10 February 2023]

I really wanted to like this movie as I am a fan of Reese Witherspoon and love her work. Normally. However watching it I asked myself what happened to her acting (mediocre and so not up to par with her other work), whatever happened to Ashton Kutcher's face, and whatever happened to their chemistry (virtually nonexistent). It's fine as light entertainment for an evening in when you're sick, but unfortunately not what I expected. I'm puzzled.

The story is kind of foreseeable, the characters a little shallow. The best performance is by Steve Kirsch (in a minor role) who was the only one getting a giggle out of me.

I like Witherspoons work so much that I almost feel guilty for being disappointed, but there you go...

Leave a lot to be desire

[ladyliliroche · 6/10 · 11 February 2023]

I kinda tune out in the middle. The potential is there since we have been running out dry from rom-com movies with big stars.

Also coincidently this movie comes out as I was in the mood for Legally Blonde and thus I'm in the mood for Reese Witherspoon.

She looks fabulous here and Ashton also looks good to look at.

Unfortunately, they don't have much interaction at all and the whole movie is just not that interesting. Not much comedy, not much chemistry between the main character due to their distance. Sleepless in Seattle developed more connection despite the long distance and communication through radio.

Definitely a miss opportunity...

I do like Zoe Chao's character. She's like the best friend to have. Supportive, rich, and fun to be around. A scene stealer.

Pleasant but Forgettable Rom-Com with Capable Cast

[FilmFanatic2023 · 6/10 · 11 February 2023]

A standard romantic comedy that takes place in 2003. Directed by writer Aline Brosh McKenna, who has written many popular romantic comedies, including "27 Dresses" and "The Devil Wears Prada," the film is a typical feel-good movie that is good for a lazy day on Netflix. Reese Witherspoon and Ashton Kutcher star as Debbie and Peter, who have been best friends for 20 years. They are opposites, with different lifestyles and personalities, and the movie follows their journey as they switch homes for a week. While the two lead actors are good-looking and charismatic, the film is let down by its bland script and lack of depth. The supporting characters, including Tig Notaro and Zoe Chao, are more interesting, but overall the movie is predictable and lacks any real twists or surprises.

Amazingly dull

[Leon-106 · 6/10 · 10 February 2023]

This film has great actors. The storyline offers plenty of opportunities. The acting isn't even bad. My 6 has been rounded upwards. The average is already below 6 while writing this review. This film is so dull and almost boring. Even the trailer is more funny than the entire film. Is it a comedy? Not really. Is it drama? Not really. Is it a romance movie? Perhaps for a few minutes. Is it dull? Yes and unfortunately. But why??? Is it related to Netflix quality control ? More and more, I'm inclined to think so. What a shame. Soon the updated Netflix access controls will kick me out. It feels almost a blessing in disguise.

Flawed, but watchable

[amca1960 · 7/10 · 14 February 2023]

The main flaw is the lack of chemistry been the two main characters, as others have said. This is undeniably true. It's hard to see why they would be friends at all, let alone prospective lovers. But even so, the film is perfectly watchable - and I've sat through many far "better" films which I've enjoyed less.

The individual performances (I could happily watch Reece Witherspoon reading a telephone directory) are perfectly fine, and in a sense the movie is carried by its co-stars: Zoë Chao, Tig Notaro, Steve Zahn, Griffin Matthews. And there's a lot of fun to be had. The film also portrays very clean, orderly, almost antiseptic New York and Los Angeles which border on surreal.

This film is like an after dinner coffee and chocolate; a relaxing, comfortable morsel but hardly main course stuff. I have no problems with easy watchable films, with a bit of humour thrown in. A "great film" it ain't; a pleasant way of whiling away an hour and a half it very much is.

Can we have more Witherspoon but in a better film? [+40%]

[arungeorge13 · 4/10 · 10 February 2023]

This one stays watchable thanks to a bright, buoyant-as-always Reese Witherspoon, but the writing and direction are on auto-pilot. For a film that pretentiously begins in 2003 and ends in 2023, there's very little actual romance or comedy here that grabs your sustained attention. The film just plods along in a familiar "can best friends turn lovers?" setup, the payoff of which is so minuscule and very 2003-like. Sure, it's not a film you'd ditch half-way, yet it has nothing that warrants a revisit - as is the case with most Netflix "originals." Also, a film like this would have actually benefited from having Kutcher and Witherspoon in the same space (to hell with those split-screens) a lot longer than 5 minutes tops. Hands up if you think Witherspoon deserves a better-written, better-directed comeback film! 🙌

This rom-com seems to be garnering a lot of hate...but I enjoyed it.

[cgvsluis · 7/10 · 21 February 2023]

I enjoyed this romantic comedy starring Reese Witherspoon and Ashton Kutcher...maybe because I am of a similar age? I loved the Cars heavy soundtrack and how it was tied into the storyline with Peter Coleman's father. I thought it was slightly different for a romantic comedy in that our two romantic leads have little to no time together in the whole film...and yet their love story is believable as they have been friends for twenty years! I did like the very Pillowtalk approach of having a split screen depicting the two in their very contrasting lives.

I enjoyed the humor and droll delivery of Tig Nataro and the quirky lines by Steven Zahn as the unpaid billionaire gardener/neighbor who is playing "the long game". "Begonias while you're Be-gone?"

But my favorite character was actually Minka played by Zoe Chao...beautiful with great comedic timing!

If you are a romantic comedy fan, I say give this a watch...you just might find, like me, that you enjoy it.

Sadly, not good

[hughjman · 2/10 · 11 February 2023]

First off, I really, really like "The Devil Wears Prada," which I've watched repeatedly. This is the same writer.

"Your Place" to me is just facile and lazy writing. During the first hour, I kept debating whether to stick with it. Since there was nothing else on, and I was tired from the workweek, I did. When Jesse Williams (from Grey's Anatomy) showed up, I perked up because, well, it's Jesse Williams! The movie did start to move a little faster then. Faster but not better.

There's no real tension in the movie until the last scene, which feels tacked on just so there can be a climactic "I hate you, no - I love you!" scene. Everyone gets what they want effortlessly. Want a top NYC editor to read your friend's book? Both he and his assistant read it overnight and of course, want to publish it. Debbie/Reese is taking a graduate class but never has to study. Want your friend's kid to be on the hockey team? Even though his mom hasn't let him play hockey, he makes it on the first try.

It's a lot of telling, not showing. We're told they've had this 20 year best friendship, but we don't see anything that would lead us to think that. We're told they fell in love the first night, but we don't see it.

I think because I already have good will towards Reese and Ashton, I automatically root for them from the top to the extent that I care, which isn't much.

Zoe Chao is the one really funny character, but that may be more the actor than the writing. I was happy to see Steve Zahn but then his character was just dumb. The young actor playing Jack was very good. I didn't like it, though, when Jack was given preternatural insight for his age.

There's no actual comedy, except for Zoe Chao. Maybe if the writer had rewritten it a bunch of times and made the dialogue better. I can't remember one line standing out or making me laugh.

I know the writer can do much better, given she also wrote "Devil Wears Prada."

Good light entertainment

[mebanej · 7/10 · 16 February 2023]

This is an entertaining romantic comedy. I was looking for escape and relaxation, and I found it in this film. The acting is consistently excellent. The plot has some interesting turns. There are some improbabilities, as one might expect in this genre, but it is, after all a romantic comedy. Shakespeare's romantic comedies, after all, revel in improbability. Scene-by-scene, "Your Place of Mine" kept my attention. Wesley Kimmel, who plays Debbie Dunn's 13-year-old son, does an especially fine job, and I expect to see more of this young man. The film knows what it is, and it delivers what I expected.

Title makes no sense

[heinigrunbaum-786-20424 · 1/10 · 10 February 2023]

Which executive approved this project at Netfix? Worst script ever. Horrible director. Waste of money. How do these amateurs get away with it? Too many Netfix productions are horrible, but this one takes the cake. It's like when someone is making a movie for Netfix they don't take it seriously. They are paid up front and don't have to worrie about box-office figures, because of course everyone is gonna stream it... And if they don't, well, then who cares? Because we don't need to get out of bed and drive down to a cinema to watch it. I am sorry, but since streaming became King the movies became crap. There, I said it!

I missed this kind of rom-com

[TaylorYee94 · 8/10 · 17 February 2023]

You can say it's cheesy, unoriginal, or old-fashioned, but it works for me. As a millennial, I was so excited to see Witherspoon and Kutcher, icons of rom-coms in early 2000s, come back as grown up couple, so I admit I can be biased. Plus, best friends-to-lovers trope always works on me. It is refreshing to see romance movie that two main characters do not spend much time together physically, but audience can sense their friendship has been strong partly because they have been friends to us millennial for a long time as well. Alicia who has watched their twenty years as a friend is one of us. Chemistry is still there just with phone calls or conversations even without physical interaction. I just missed rom-com with early 2000s vibe.

Classic Rom com, but enjoyable and enduring

[parkersmitthy · 7/10 · 11 February 2023]

Nothing truly new, but non the less, a great take on the genre. Two romantic comedy super stars together on screen makes for a great pairing. Witherspoon and Kutcher both seem very comfortable in the role and with each other. They seem to really enjoy the roles they have and the over themes of the movie concerning Witherspoon son and her short lived romance with me Greys anatomy is surprisingly charming and sweet.

Over all, I really enjoyed this. Its the kind of movie 20 years ago used to make 150m/300m at the box office on a 30m dollar budget. Now it's a streaming original and personally I think it's were the genre now belongs. It's was a cute, and enduring flick that I got some laughs out of, and enjoyed the on screen chemistry of the leads, but also the supporting cast who were all enjoyable in their own right.

This is the kind of cozy film you wanna watch when you're home with a loved one and just wanna get that fell good kinda vibe. It's a semi original take on a classic genre that has all but died as far as the box office is concerned. But I believe it has a new life in the platform of streaming services. And it's good to see these two stars having the fun on screen again. Especially Kutcher who hasn't really done much in recent years.

Watch it when you're in the mood for a feel good rom com.

They're too old for an "I don't wanna ruin our friendship movie"

[nickijjohnson-16955 · 3/10 · 12 February 2023]

To be honest the "I don't want to ruin our friendship" premise for romcoms is pretty common. However by the time you're in your 40s and you're still saying this it's kind of pathetic. Movies like this work better for characters in their 20s that have been friends since they were kids. The movie was generic, boring and predictable. Tig Notaro plays an interesting side character they both apparently have known for years but with no backstory as to how. Steve Zahn plays a silly gardener they attempt to utilize as comedy but really just comes off as a pointless character and quite frankly a waste of Steve's time. She briefly has an affair with a dude she has no chemistry with and like no other rom-com before (great sarcasm here) they kiss and make up at baggage claim in an airport after confessing their love for one another only a whopping 20 years later. Film seemed like a cash grab for both of them.

Justice for Minka!

[Dragoneyed363 · 6/10 · 13 February 2023]

This movie was good and cute. Nothing great by far; but for a directorial debut the motions are gone through and it works. Like other comments mention there is a lot left to be desired.

Strong points: The soundtrack? Phenomenal. I see little to no one mentioning it and it's worth mentioning. Lots of classics, cool mellow tunes that go with the movie's flow and I couldn't help notice every time one came on I felt a great sense of like they knew what they were doing. (My dad loved The Cars.)

Reese Witherspoon is of course a treat to be delighted in. She claims her scenes with ease. Zoe Chao as Minka was the comedic relief the movie needed to break it's ice for me, however. She is HILARIOUS. I love the character, love the actress and her portrayal. It's all too much. "I smell dead people..." *dies laughing* Every time she came on screen I smiled.

The downsides: The movie has a very meandering pace. There's a lot of content with not really much to say. Nothing big really goes on. Like I said it all just going through the motions even if it does it well. It's all a character development and how they play off each other. Steve Zahn and Ashton Kutcher don't bring as much as they could but I guess their characters are slightly less under written.

If Minka starred in her own movie I would definitely watch it. That's how much I loved her.

Anyway, a very soft thumbs up. 6/10 stars. I don't think I'll revisit again if only for the comedy of Zoë Chao and her use of the character Minka, but "like my drunk mother used to say, mind your own business..."

Meet in the middle

[kosmasp · 7/10 · 25 February 2023]

No pun intended - rom coms - they have evolved, haven't they? This is more a rhetorical question I reckon. The two main actors are good. Even if you are not into romantic comedy movies ... you may find something here to enjoy. Probably the performances. We know where all is leading up to - where we will end up. That said, it doesn't mean we can't enjoy the ride/journey.

The main thing here is the distance ... but considering modern relationships it isn't too much of an ask ... to let the viewers be the glue .. be the ones to connect ... well I had to do those puns. Too easy you say? Sure - but the movie is also too easy ... kind of like the other (substitute) lovers/stand ins ... suspension of disbelief - you know it.

Hmmmm

[sparelogin · 5/10 · 10 February 2023]

I really wanted to love this. Really really, I love romcoms, it had a great cast, promising if cliched story, I still had high hope. Sadly I didnt love it, I barely liked it. And i have questions .............. if they are the best friends ever how have they never visited each others homes ? And also when Debbie can't get in touch with peter who is responsible for her son, being the helicopter Mum she is why is she not freaking out . Also it was waaaaay out of the blue the sudden romantic feelings for each other. It kinda came out of left field. I feel sad , I'd been waiting to watch this for weeks and then boom, the night of release arrived . I just felt let down 🙁

Meh

[Weavesbeaves · 6/10 · 17 February 2023]

I don't blame the actors...I blame the script writers. What has happened to great rom-coms?? Where are the Legally Blonde's? The What Happens in Vegas's? The When Harry Met Sally's? The Runaway Bridges's? The Proposal's? The Miss Congeniality's?

I had hopes for this movie. But it ended up just being on in the background while I did things around the house. It was such a predictable movie, I didn't have to follow it to know what happened.

Reese should know better seeing as she is a great producer. Hate to say it but This one will be soon forgotten.

I'm hoping we start getting back to the good rom coms.

Awful film

[hickeysrus1 · 3/10 · 10 February 2023]

Story line is awful and its so slow and boring I fell asleep on the first attempt to watch. On the second watch I couldn't finish the film.

Actors did their best with what they had but I really can't recommend watching this. It attempted to make you guess the storyline with some very weak relationship build ups, but all it did was let me down.

It has a cheap low budget feel to it and I really do think Netflix were relying on the big budget actors to make this film.

It's a shame because with the line up it should have been a really good evening film for couples, but I wouldn't watch this again if you paid me.

I really enjoyed this

[Boristhemoggy · 6/10 · 13 February 2023]

OK let's address the elephant in the room. Yes, there is zero chemistry between Kutcher and Witherspoon. But there isn't supposed to be. They are both unaware of each others' feelings. So there's bound not to be chemistry.

It's predictable? Well yes, but only in as much you realise after a while they will end up together. But it is rarely the destination that matters, it's the journey that counts.

Was it La La happy? Yes, it was very positive and upbeat and we all need a bit of that. But that's not a bad thing, a great romcom should be positive and upbeat.

I think Witherspoon was fantastic and Kutchner was OK, and the film was fine and entertaining and light hearted and positive and happy ending. For me that's a success.

Watchable but not what I expected

[ritujaingupta · 5/10 · 12 February 2023]

I was eagerly awaiting this movie as I like both Reese and Ashton but it was quite a let-down. It was so boring, I fell asleep half-way through. As everybody before me has said, no chemistry no emotion which is the foundation of a rom-com. But tell me this, they are never together in any scene until the very last scene. Throughout the entire movie they only interact through phone across the country, so how does one display chemistry. It is the script that made the movie so boring. It could have been another Harry met Sally where long time friends discover the love after 20 years, but not here. And yes, Ashton does 'look' older, no more Michael Kelso sadly.

Go in with low expectations...

[j_rager · 8/10 · 12 February 2023]

And you'll find a movie that's actually pretty sweet. The stars are outshined by the supporting cast, notably Tig Notaro and Steve Zahn. Comments about the lack of chemistry between Kutcher and Witherspoon are fair, but the have so little time on screen together, it's not detrimental. The soundtrack is generally strong, with an unexpected but welcome feature of the Cars. While the relationship aspects are formulaic, the best lines are delivered by Zahn and Notaro. Tig's lines feel like something out of her own standup set, and Steve Zahn is as sweet as he was in That Thing You Do. Give it a chance.

Sweet

[suzyscoolstuff · 7/10 · 16 February 2023]

They aren't breaking any barriers here, it's a typical, predictable rom-com, but if you love rom-coms, this one is good, because the acting is good. People say that Reese and Ashton don't have chemistry, but as someone who has been in a long relationship, I think they do, it's just not the chemistry like two strangers have where they have this hot sexual chemistry - I feelthey have a true connection. I would watch this movie again. It is enjoyable and sweet. Don't go in it thinking it's some blockbuster hit, because it's not. Go in it to just relax and enjoy a cute movie. If you do this, you will enjoy it. P. S. Tig is funny, I love her so much!

Nope. Save your time

[khoslal · 3/10 · 12 February 2023]

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So, the movie starts off very slow and boring and then is super rushed at the end. Both the main characters careers aren't explained it's not really a love story but is at the same time. Ashton doesn't realize that he's fallen in love with Reese until the last 30 minutes and at the end of the movie he's like "I've been in love with you forever" they aren't compatible and there isn't any chemistry. There are multiple jokes in the movie that don't really land. I think they were trying to make this a non predictable movie but we all know that they are going to fall in love at the end.

Urm... what a shame.

[nxhqgfxyk · 6/10 · 11 February 2023]

I love a rom com, even some of the 'bad' ones. I just felt that there was no chemistry between the characters whatsoever. I didn't feel like anything was building and I was not really expecting anything to happen. These actors are capable of so much more!! Just a bit disappointing and I really wanted to like it. It was disjointed and it makes no sense to have the romantic leads not spend any screen time together for most of the film! Tig Notaro was pretty funny in it. The Minka character was really strange and didn't make any sense to me at all. Steve Zahn also what?! I love him and he's funny but just a really random side character. Strange!

Everyone's got Too much expectations,Lighten Up!

[kenjihino · 7/10 · 14 February 2023]

Don't listen to anyone.... See for yourself,If U like Reese and Ashton you won't be Disappointed.

Unless You have a serious high expectations.

I read The Reviews and held off this movie but I regretted it not seeing it sooner.

It was Entertaining, and has Humor,Good Acting,and was very Enjoyable.

Yes, it Might not be the greatest RomCom Classics but I was Rooting for them because the characters were likable.

Everyone is getting older and not every actor want to use botox and plastic surgery to make themselves looker feel younger.

I dug the movie. Everyone is talking about chemistry but what do you expect?? Don't want spoiler so After watching it You'll know What I'm saying about the Chemistry.....watch the movie, it's a feels good.