Just wanted to write about the last comment of Haidt - that you should have done a movie about your weaknesses. I consider him a great social psychologist, but I doubt if he was connecting with your situation 100% objectively, as he also kind of had his book to "defend". What I saw in the film was nothing weak - everyone else is like that too. I'm a sexologist, a social psychologist and a counselor and falling in love and how it is a lot influenced by looks and youth is a well researched subject. It seems people get attracted to, and fall in love with, the people they find to be the most attractive that they believe they have a chance to form a couple with. They then superimpose a ton of rationale afterwards to come up with less superficial answers to the question "why this particular person?". Mutual attraction then actually does create positive interaction experiences in the couple that is in love, and we usually can not honestly see that looks and attraction generally is the main root of the phenomena called "falling in love". Anyway, you were just more open and honest about something that is completely normal. It is a great gift for people, because if they want to have a happy life, alone or with someone else, they need to honestly see how their sexuality works and accept it as it is - with all its superficiality. My honest opinion is that you're not weak - we're all like this, weather we want to admit it or not.
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