I adore Anne Hathaway and am a huge Vik White fan so I watched this movie.
I never read the book but got the general premise and thought it would be an entertaining romcom with an interesting twist.
A few + a few more years ago, I found myself in my late 30s unhappy and getting divorced. I started dating someone years my junior. (legal people legal he was 21). He wasn't an international pop star and I didn't have children but I related so hard to the plight of Solene. You know it can't last, you know it will be judged.... You know it's insane. (Everyone thought I was insane going thru a "phase" and was "worried about me.") after giving your "best years" to all the wrong guys/husband, when something that seems too good to be true and feels like love comes in a young package that sweeps you off your feet and makes you feel young, carefree, and puts that jump in your step you had in your 20s back before life and reality beat you down, you have to try; to hope it could be reality. You try to end it all the time because you know that you're the adult in the situation, it just can't work. And no matter how mature the younger man, hes still got so much to learn about life and love and yeah.... Life. And he has no clue what he's doing and is just wrapped up in "love" or lust or mommy issues. (Or in my case a sugar momma.) so you try to end it because you know "society won't accept it" but you want it to be real. How could a young good looking man ever be attracted to or feel real lasting love for an older woman? There's got to be an angle. It goes against the 100,000 years of biology about reproduction and the laws of nature.
I think the most poignant thing in this whole movie was when Solene's friend said something like- "don't you know? People don't want women to be happy?" That shook me. Trolls will be trolls in this movie's case (international pop star dating an older woman who is a nobody) but I was more disappointed in the fact that the ex husband (who cheated with and married a much younger woman) and the daughter (granted a teen) made it more about them. Solene has to make decisions to end the happiness she feels based on the unhappiness of those around her - yes it was her kid I get that even never having the experience myself. This is the bigger picture and message in this silly romcom (or fan fiction depending on how you take it). Many Women sacrifice their happiness for those around them daily. So in tune to the people around them and their feelings. Older men and younger women- dime a dozen, happens everyday. Who cares if sleeping with the babysitter then marrying her tears your family apart? You're a man and it's almost expected.
Those around Solene couldnt deal with the reality of this harsh internet fame obsessed world (something she was taking on the chin daily) for her happiness. She was happy and felt adored for the first time since she was made a fool of but F her happiness and what she wants right? The kids at school are bullying me and my ex husband is jealous and is going to care about his kid and not put work first suddenly and frame it around their kids well being? I felt so bad for her- she can't have what made her feel alive and loved, regardless of if it was going to last or not, because she has to do what is best for those she loves and actually cares about what "society" thinks. And this is how it is and THAT is the message of this truly enjoyable movie. (Or maybe I'm just projecting because I'm now old and bitter and was judged by so many including his father when he found out who threatened me - yes a 58 year old man showed up after my workout in the parking lot to confront me. All I thought was- uh huh, if I'd made my move on you and not your son, you'd feel very differently.)
Watch it, think about it. Is there a bigger message here?
PS- having not read the books.... Anne Hathaway was perfect for this role- still freaking got it no matter her age. So believable. I was that intelligent, interesting, could pass for late 20s in dim lighting cougar at that age and the young men did swarm. Heck yeah Anne, heck yeah.
I never read the book but got the general premise and thought it would be an entertaining romcom with an interesting twist.
A few + a few more years ago, I found myself in my late 30s unhappy and getting divorced. I started dating someone years my junior. (legal people legal he was 21). He wasn't an international pop star and I didn't have children but I related so hard to the plight of Solene. You know it can't last, you know it will be judged.... You know it's insane. (Everyone thought I was insane going thru a "phase" and was "worried about me.") after giving your "best years" to all the wrong guys/husband, when something that seems too good to be true and feels like love comes in a young package that sweeps you off your feet and makes you feel young, carefree, and puts that jump in your step you had in your 20s back before life and reality beat you down, you have to try; to hope it could be reality. You try to end it all the time because you know that you're the adult in the situation, it just can't work. And no matter how mature the younger man, hes still got so much to learn about life and love and yeah.... Life. And he has no clue what he's doing and is just wrapped up in "love" or lust or mommy issues. (Or in my case a sugar momma.) so you try to end it because you know "society won't accept it" but you want it to be real. How could a young good looking man ever be attracted to or feel real lasting love for an older woman? There's got to be an angle. It goes against the 100,000 years of biology about reproduction and the laws of nature.
I think the most poignant thing in this whole movie was when Solene's friend said something like- "don't you know? People don't want women to be happy?" That shook me. Trolls will be trolls in this movie's case (international pop star dating an older woman who is a nobody) but I was more disappointed in the fact that the ex husband (who cheated with and married a much younger woman) and the daughter (granted a teen) made it more about them. Solene has to make decisions to end the happiness she feels based on the unhappiness of those around her - yes it was her kid I get that even never having the experience myself. This is the bigger picture and message in this silly romcom (or fan fiction depending on how you take it). Many Women sacrifice their happiness for those around them daily. So in tune to the people around them and their feelings. Older men and younger women- dime a dozen, happens everyday. Who cares if sleeping with the babysitter then marrying her tears your family apart? You're a man and it's almost expected.
Those around Solene couldnt deal with the reality of this harsh internet fame obsessed world (something she was taking on the chin daily) for her happiness. She was happy and felt adored for the first time since she was made a fool of but F her happiness and what she wants right? The kids at school are bullying me and my ex husband is jealous and is going to care about his kid and not put work first suddenly and frame it around their kids well being? I felt so bad for her- she can't have what made her feel alive and loved, regardless of if it was going to last or not, because she has to do what is best for those she loves and actually cares about what "society" thinks. And this is how it is and THAT is the message of this truly enjoyable movie. (Or maybe I'm just projecting because I'm now old and bitter and was judged by so many including his father when he found out who threatened me - yes a 58 year old man showed up after my workout in the parking lot to confront me. All I thought was- uh huh, if I'd made my move on you and not your son, you'd feel very differently.)
Watch it, think about it. Is there a bigger message here?
PS- having not read the books.... Anne Hathaway was perfect for this role- still freaking got it no matter her age. So believable. I was that intelligent, interesting, could pass for late 20s in dim lighting cougar at that age and the young men did swarm. Heck yeah Anne, heck yeah.
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