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6/10
a back-to-the-roots vacation
dromasca18 June 2022
'Lune de miel' (distributed on the English language market as 'My Polish Honeymoon'), the 2018 film made by Élise Otzenberger (her only film as a director so far) addresses two interesting and significant themes. The first is well-known and has been approached by many famous filmmakers in various registers but always including a dose of humor - it is about the Jewish identity in the modern world. The other is more delicate and less addressed - the relation between today's Poland and the Jews originating from that country, descendants of the more than 3 million Jews, about 10% of the country's population at the beginning of World War II. The film by the French director addresses these two themes from the perspective of a Parisian couple who decide to go on a trip to the country from which their parents and grandparents emigrated. The treatment is quite superficial, bringing nothing new to the first theme and failing to open any new path for the second.

Anna and Adam live their almost completely secular Judaism in Paris. The invitation to attend a meeting of the descendants of families from a Polish village that once had a Jewish population triggers this visit, although a second important reason is that they can be alone for a few days, afar from their one year old baby, left to the care of her parents. Their meeting with Poland is full of unconfirmed expectations and cultural asynchronies. The language barrier is always present, in Krakow the history of Jewish life and even the Holocaust seem to be marketed Disneyland-style and the borscht at the restaurant is not the one from her grandmother's dinner memories. Anna's home conflicts and psychological problems (the pressure of motherhood?) are in danger of escalating, but something will happen that will bring back the emotion. The ending is likely to satisfy the spectators of the Jewish film festivals.

I am convinced that this story and the issues it raises were important for the filmmakers and some of the actors. Just as hell is paved with good intentions, movie archives are full of movies made with sincerity and involvement, but which fail to cross the screen and endure over time. This is, in my opinion, also the case with 'Lune de miel'. The mix between marital and identity problems in the case of the couple Anna - Adam does not work well, at times it is annoying, at other times it falls into the grotesque. Anna's character, excellently played by Judith Chemla, is the most interesting, and her identity neurosis combined with postpartum trauma could have had a much greater impact if the story was not wrapped in a layer of ethnic stereotypes which are rough when they are not rude. 'Lune de miel', paradoxically, combines an intriguing concept with rudimentary dialogue and naive musical illustration. (The traditional Jewish music library is huge and it's time for filmmakers who make such films to discover something other than 'Hava Nagila'!) Polish relation with Jewish history also deserves a much more sensitive and in-depth approach. Hopefully this will happen in the future, maybe in movies by Polish filmmakers. 'Lune de miel' manages to bring important issues to its attention, but it does it in a superficial way, missing the opportunity for a deeper impact. The film still deserves to be watched for its themes and actors, but expectations should not be too high.
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4/10
Stereotyped and boring
FrenchEddieFelson16 June 2019
Anna: she is a stifling spouse and a mother suffering of an excessive adulation for her newborn. She is globally ingenuous / childish, and she is able to overreact unpredictably. A pain in the neck or a living nightmare: your choice! Adam: although ultra-adorable, we wonder how he puts up with Anna, throughout the entire film. The ideal husband, no doubt! Together, they live in Paris and are invited to commemorate the seventy-fifth anniversary of the destruction of the birth village community of Adam's grandfather, in the very heart of Poland.

It's well played, especially with Judith Chemla and Arthur Igual, but the film drags on excessively and is sometimes almost soporific, because of cheesy dialogues and a script with a blatant lack of originality. Thus, the scene with Irene and Anna, at the birthplace of the grandmother, is supposed to be, I think, an outstanding opportunity for a mother-daughter catharsis. But it just falls through. Knowing that we barely stand Anna for one hour, how to empathize with her, even during a few minutes?

As a postscript, I did not understand the movie title. At all! Dixit Wikipedia, a honeymoon is either a holiday taken by newlyweds immediately after their wedding, either the lunar month following the wedding. I was not aware of the second part of this definition. However, we repeatedly hear that they go to Poland to commemorate a painful event related to World War II. So... could anyone explain the relationship between World War II and a honeymoon?!? Is this supposed to be funny?... philosophical?... spiritual? Well, well, well, for sure, it's messy!
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1/10
Superficial. Embarrassing.
pmamds16 October 2020
Lead character, babbling, personality disorder. Husband who is willing to drink himself into a stupor. Unrealistic improvisations. The only veritable aspect of this film is that a nightmare experience revisited can have negative psychosocial effects.
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10/10
Lovely little film
hillww30 January 2020
Saw this in London at JW3 and absolutely loved it. The young couple from Paris leave their baby with the Grandparents to go on pilgrimage to Poland. Despite it being his family's ceremony, his wife who also has Polish descendents is more fired up. The comedy relationship between them is very well drawn, but the serous parts filmed on location are moving and respectful. I disagree that it is disrespectful to the Poles, but it does show aspects of the commercialization of The Holocaust which I have also experienced in Germany and the feelings, hard to repress, if your family were affected by WW2 and you visit the areas affected even 2 generations on. Also the Secrets and Lies passed down the generations. Do catch it if you can.
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8/10
Newlyweds visit Poland to commemorate Jewish slaughter.
maurice_yacowar2 April 2019
Warning: Spoilers
Writer/director Élise Otzenberger gives her Holocaust-observance film a woman's angle. The newlywed couple travels to Poland to commemorate the 75th anniversary of the eradication of the Jews from the small town from which husband Adam's grandfather came. But it's wife Anna, not he, who insists on the trip. More importantly, the primary healing from the experience is between Anna and her mother. Their relationship begins in mutual abrasion. When the mother disturbingly pops up in Poland, the eruption turns positive because she brings information about her own mother's past in Poland. When they visit the site of the grandmother's old home the formerly combative women bond over their lost history. The mother establishes a new connection with her daughter through realizing her neglect of her own mother's history. She now imagines what she had failed to learn. The primary theme is focusing one's identity. This plays out in the framing use of Hava Nageela. Its initial appearance is an instrumental version which - like the Chopin Nocturne that follows - we recognize but have to pause before we Name that Tune. At the end we get the version with lyrics, which asserts its identity. Also,the lyrics make it more bouyant and celebratory, reflecting the two women's growth. Adam and Anna are both prone to emotional outbursts. Adam bristles from Jewish self-consciousness in that once flagrantly antisemitic country. He's sensitive to others' sensing he's Jewish and belligerently asserts that identity. He has ample cause, given the apparent monetizing of Holocaust guilt, with tours of Auschwitz advertised in glossy pamphlets, a bus offering tours of Schindler's Factory and school kids touring the plundered remains of Jewish cemeteries. These scenes add a tone of black comedy to the serious issues. Anna's sensitivity centers on the challenges to her recovering her past. Mainly it's her complete break from her grandmother, her lack of any grip on that history. This need takes comic form when she drunkenly explodes at the fine restaurant's profaning of her traditional meat-based borscht. For the past is, indeed, another country, as L.P. Hartley observes in The Go-Between. They do things differently there, even when the modern world veers dangerously close to repeating its nightmare.
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a trip
Kirpianuscus5 June 2022
A touching film about family, roots, memories and secrets, cultural clash , kitsch commercialization of Shoah memory.

A young couple and their trip to discover the traces of their ancestors.

Precious lessons, dramatic revelations, familiar, for part of viewers, crumbs of relations between parents and their children, fair remind of Shoah.

A film admirable for honesty and for the drops of humor.
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