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7/10
A Perfect Wife Who Did Not Complain Her Overstretched Works to The Husband But Chose to Cheat on Him.
Jackpapa2119 February 2022
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I watched this drama quite late in 2021 and enjoyed it. Main Lead / Supporting actors and actresses did great performance throughout the show. OST were also so emotional. I rewatched this drama again from the start to better understand and sympathize the cheating wife SY ... but it was quite hard to agree upon the (opened) happy ending story of this remade K-drama version although this was a good story in presenting how difficulty to be both career mom and housewife which any husband might not notice and realize. The Writer seemed to make SY looked like a Victim whom had reason(s) to cheat her husband and deserved forgiveness at the end. However, the story showed so many CONFLICTING scenes leading some Viewers to think differently for the happy ending story direction.

The cheating wife SY was a beautiful career mom who tried her best to be a perfect mom and housewife. As written, the cheating wife SY's character was a thoughtful woman and kept things to herself. She wanted to please anyone although she was exhausted. Her husband HW was a good husband who "unintentionally" overlooked her burdens / stresses because he always thought that SY was a perfect wife. She had ONCE slept with her lover SW and secretly kept it under her smiling face to her family since the affair started about 6 months ago.

It seemed that SY might still love her husband BUT she also missed her lover. SY and her lover worked together as companies' project partners. They always met at their offices and in any cafeteria outside the office. The story showed that she and her lover SW did not want to divorce their own families during their affair relationship. They seemed to create their weird imagination that having an affair without divorcing in mind was the excuse to NOT destroy their own families. They are SELFISH without any thinking that while they enjoyed their happiness moment, they were hurting other people's feelings.

When her lover wanted to sleep her, SY did NOT deny and was willing to serve his desire. She intentionally lied to her husband about the ending time of her office meeting and also thought that she was able to pick up her son at a Nursery school after sleeping with her lover. How could she go to face her son just right after she had slept with another man who was not her son's father? However, the physical affair did not happen because it got caught red-handed by her husband at the hotel.

The scene did not clearly show that she felt guilty after the affair was caught up red-handed at a Hotel. At home, she said to her husband that she would stop seeing her ex-lover SW "for now". The husband was upset after heard her wordings BUT why she did NOT clarify that she meant "from now on". It might be interpreted that she did NOT really want to end the relationship with her lover b/c they still met and were working on a project together. She might hope to refresh and continue their love again.

When she and her husband agreed to talk at home in the following night, she acted so "calmly" when she said to HW that she was sorry for what she had done and added that she did not have an affair to divorce the husband. She was PRETENDING like there was NO any physical affair happening between her and her lover b/c the husband had found it out before it happened. But her husband did not trust and pushed her the question if she had slept with SW before. She could not deny BUT expressed her upset feeling when replying to the husband that she had slept with her lover before. How could she encounter her husband that she missed her lover all the times if she really felt guilty?

Although there was no obvious scene showing that SY said to anyone that she loved and cared her lover SW, the written story seemed to show that she might feel passionately in love with that man. There was a short scene after the affair was caught-up and SY, her husband, and her lover were all in a Hotel room. When the husband noticed that his wife did not wear her wedding ring and asked if she actually loved SW. SY felt reluctant to answer and SW quickly jumped-in saying that they were "playing with fire". Her reluctance meant that she could not tell the truth that she loved SW. SY was not a flirtatious women type, so if she dared to repeat the same mistake by allowing another man to physically touch her body, it meant that she loved that man. Her expressions as seen in the drama also showed that she was in love with SW such as wearing beautiful dresses when seeing SW; kissing her hand given to SW; planning and intentional lying to her husband for adultery; thinking to temporarily stop seeing SW after the affair was found out; later admitting that she forgot her family, guilty, etc when being with SW; and sharing her feeling like a kid chasing after a balloon which implied that she would continue her affair during her marriage. So, it seemed that SY truly loved SW and had him in her heart during the affair and might be ready to leave her family whenever SW decided to divorce his wife.

While she might want to temporarily stop her relationship with her ex-lover SW, it was SW (clearly NOT Her) who ended their relationship and dumped her by requesting her boss to take her out from the project. The affair relationship between SY and her lover also confused me a bit. During the three-confrontation in a Hotel room, her lover said in front of her husband that he loved SY. SY herself admitted that she was so happy when being with her lover and did not want to break up the affair if her husband did not find out. She even dared to lie in front of her husband's face to sleep with her lover when he desired. When her ex-lover abandoned her completely, she did not feel sad or express her disappointing feeling when she met him to report her job-handover progressing. She just normally complained her ex-lover that he should early inform her. But when her ex-lover said back to SY that it was not appropriate to contact her personally and they should not see each other again, SY just easily accepted it. HOW did their love affair end up so easy? Anyway, it seemed that SY started to realize that she was loosing her ex-lover and felt guilty to her husband. She seemed to feel remorseful and kept saying SORRY endlessly in the show.

There was another scene that I did not quite understand if the Writer wanted to make the cheating wife looked more cruel when the cheating wife encountered her husband if he had ever had an affair before. Then there was no later scene clearly saying that the husband had an affair with any woman during their marriage. He might only have a fantasy thinking with another girl. So, he was a good husband and honest to his wife while she betrayed him.

SY told her husband that she was exhausted due to over-works. Her excuse was that she did not have time to be herself (even to fix her worn-out shoes) and when her lover approached her, she felt happy when being with him. Her excuse did NOT make any sense ... If she really did NOT have enough time, how could she manage her (not-enough) times to meet him at any cafeteria or even planned to sleep with him?

The cheating wife's intentional affair mistake was MUCH WORSE than her husband's unintentional overlooking her stresses. The story tried to show that SY felt remorseful and kept crying BUT NOT dared to ask forgiveness. There was not much scene showing her improvement to gain her husband's trust or showing how much she loved her husband. I understand that this drama was the story of the husband HW to grow maturely and improve himself. So, it did not show much story about SY while her mistake was much worse. It was hard for me to be sympathetic from the given story that SY would deserve the happiness ending.

I really liked this K-drama's concept that Forgiving can be done BUT Forgetting is harder. The story presented that HW's character was an indecisive person and he always thought so many times before making any decision. He felt pain and was struggled b/c he could not get rid of the image of his wife when being with another man which was the "key" reason that led to the divorcing decision. It did NOT make any sense at all that the divorce erased the husband's painful memory in such a SHORT PERIOD and he walked back to restart husband/wife relationship again !! Forget such kind of hurt emotional feeling takes times even years or forever. If they returned back, they would divorce again.

Anyway, this is a DRAMA story. Drama is still Drama !!
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9/10
I tend to rate high when cheaters get karma
sooftennegative26 July 2021
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I should add a disclaimer here that all of my thoughts are based upon the closed captioning that was probably auto-generated and may not have completely matched the actual dialog of the characters.

Romantic relationships between people are probably the most prolific subject of TV and movies. We all can't fly rocket ships or wear capes and fly thru space and time however, most of us have had a relationship with someone who disappointed us in some way. I could easily say that cheating is the main subject of this series. The real main subject is hinted at in the title "My Wife is Having an Affair This Week." These are the words the husband in this series posted anonymously to an online chat group as he struggled with his wife's supposed and then confirmed affair with another man. He could not bring himself to talk with friends or family so he indevoured to gain some knowledge or at least solace by chatting with anonymous strangers. It was interesting to see some of the fictional group of posters frequently mimic my thoughts. Many did not agree of course. What was equally interesting was noticing that actual persons were out in the world posting online at various sites making comments that agreed with one side or the other. So the actual main subject of this screenplay may be our modern ability to seek anonymous online advice on everything and consider if that is a good thing.

I think the series creator, writers, and director intended for us people in the viewing audience to be drafted onto the husband's crew of online helpers by coming to our own conclusions about what was happening. Many of us posting in real-time (and later for some like me) with our conclusions about what the cheating wife was doing and what the dutiful husband should do. Many were on both sides of the issue and many stating the same comments as the fictional characters. It was also rather exciting to see many of my thoughts as a resident of the southern United States agree and markedly disagree with those from distant lands. This series apparently hasn't had much playtime in the USA.

Many of the real comments point out a severe lack of characterization for the cheating wife. A likely great actress was tasked to spend an inordinate amount of time just looking with anguish at her clenched hands with her missing wedding ring saying "I'm sorry", "It's my fault." She very quickly was determined to separate and divorce without thoughts or discussion of reconciliation. Not many (if any) TV viewers seemed to see that it was a purposeful direction and not a mistake. The wife was suddenly an enigma for the husband. He could not understand what motivated his perfect wife to cheat and abruptly give up on the marriage. Likewise, his group of online supporters could also not be allowed the inner thoughts of the cheater. Since we viewers were also cast in the role of his online group we also could not be given that information. The usual semi omniscient view of the TV audience dictated we not see her any more clearly than the storytelling husband. She had to be closed off to everyone including us. Therefore it was necessary for her to have virtually no characterization for us to judge her by.

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I think they accomplished that too well. Even in the final episode when "The Cheating Wife" as she identified herself logged on to the message board to defend her husband, she doesn't reveal herself quite so well as I thought she could. Although blaming herself by "wearing herself too thin" being a working mother and wife, I think she could/should have addressed every single question and thought her now ex-husband posted to his pack of online helpers. This series was about that online relationship more than the marriage. We (or at least I) would really like to know if she forgot the wedding anniversary? She bought the gift but left it in a drawer where it remained till the next day. Why not give it to him on the anniversary. If she did intend to keep the marriage intact (as her cheating lover said prior to being caught) then she would have continued the excellent facade of happiness by celebrating the anniversary with her husband. She did not do that. She forgot or ignored it. Next was the question "Why didn't my wife follow me from that hotel room?" which could have been directly addressed. She stated it was her that insisted on divorce after discovery but didn't answer "Why was she so determined to divorce?" An opportunity to fill in her motivations to her husband's online crew and us TV viewers could have been better used. She might have tried to resolve her earlier angry statement to her husband that she" longed for her lover and asked him to meet her." That did not seem congruent with her later words that "when I'm with him I don't think about my husband, child or work." That longing for him sounded liked she thought she loved him and not that he was just a distraction from responsibility. This was the final episode so her internal thoughts should have been more generous and forthcoming to those of us paying attention to all these details about her that bothered the husband so much. I guess I am saying that all of the missing characterization of the wife from early episodes was not adequately made up for in the concluding episode.

What is/are the moral(s) of this story? Pay attention to your spouse if you value their happiness and your family. Happiness is a life-long endeavor. Talk to your spouse about things that trouble you, please you, and everything in-between. They can't read your mind because they are not perfect and you know that neither are you. Don't save these conversations for an outside lover with pillow talk which virtually guarantees the end of your marriage.

One more very personal opinion about the plot: I disagree with the conclusion of this story that you suddenly find yourself in someone else's arms like that full "glass of water" suddenly losing its surface tension talked about by the husband's female co-worker. Cheating is strictly a choice. With every action of this series in place, I would still conclude the wife cheated just because she wanted to. She cheated because it felt good and new and exciting. She was only sad because she got caught and her fun came to an end.
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9/10
Entertaining, bittersweet and thoughtful
Hwangkidong10 July 2020
I was expecting a light comedy but this turned out to be much much more. The main storyline is our lead actor discovering clues that his wife is going to cheat on him, if she hasn't already done so. But how could this happen? They have a perfectly happy life with an adorable young son and jobs they like. They don't have any martial problems, as far as he knows. Surely there must be an innocent explanation for his perfect wife's behavior? As his desperation mount and not willing to share his fear with his best friends and colleagues, he anonymously asked for advices in a popular public forum. Thus began a series of hilarious acts to find out the truth and deal with it.

Aside from the comic relief provided by the supporting casts and the funny notion of his story becoming a top trending topic online, this show is surprisingly dark in tone. It realistically portraits the fear, pain, despair and anger our leading man experiences. Quite surprisingly, this is also done in an understated manner that I find is inline with his introvert and stoic personality. This makes his character believable and easy to identify with.

What about the wife's story and motivation? Is she really guilty of the assumed betrayal? Why? The show's perspective is mostly from the husband's and my biggest criticism of this show is comparatively not giving the wife sufficient screen time to develop her side of the story. Is that misogyny of the show, or mine in finding her motivation less believable because I am a man?

Regardless I have been really touched by the story and the performance of our leads. I feel for them and got drawn into their lives, their introspection and their dilemma. I must confess that quite a few times my predictions were wrong and that makes for a very gripping, if not always enjoyable, experience.

I highly recommend this show provided you are not looking for a laugh out loud comedy.
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10/10
Amazing show
hemilkhatri24 June 2022
Love this show a lot. Nice casting, awesome story and amazing tension building plus spetecular comedy and fantastic romance. Love it. New things happening in characters life. Over all out of the world show must watch.
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