The Ultimatum: Queer Love (2023– ) User Reviews

Stainless Steel Love

[patw-73839 · 8/10 · 7 June 2023]

The Ultimatum earns 8 bags of popcorn. Absolutely gripping and worth binge watching.

There's highs, there's lows, there's a Vanessa and stainless steel cups. If you love reality tv and couples drama then you'll love this show.

I wasn't expecting to get so caught up in these individuals' lives, but by the end of episode 1 I knew all their names and already had my opinions about who should be with who and who should leave who.

The structure of the show is great. You get a good introduction to the couples but then are quickly thrown into their new relationships. By the time they go back to their original partner, it feels like they've each gone through a genuine experience and there's this incredible tension that you can't wait to see resolved.

Grab your favorite stainless steel cup and enjoy these relationships develop and break and stengthen over the course of The Ultimatum.

Way better than the straight version

[Roma73 · 7/10 · 7 June 2023]

I'm not into reality shows, but a while ago I somehow ended up watching the Ultimatum hetero version of this. I thought it was absolute trash, with a lot of unstable narcissisticaly inclined participants. However, these lesbians ring truer somehow. This feels more balanced and (most of) the participants seem less unhinged. Although I'll never quite understand what drives people to share such personal stuff on camera with the world entire, it feels like their motives for participating aren't merely a narcissistic thirst for attention. They're quite funny at times too.

As a guilty voyeuristic pleasure, this was entertaining.

Absolutely Addictive

[destiny_west · 8/10 · 3 June 2023]

Being a fan of Love is Blind and being in between seasons, I was looking for a similar reality show based on relationships, so I thought I would give The Ultimatum: Queer Love a shot. I was hooked from the first episode. I thrive one watching the way people react to one another. The way each relationship is different and the growth. Of course I also love the drama involved. That is what we are here for.

Regardless, watching the dynamics of the couples is fascinating. This show feels very real and not as scripted as other 'relationship' reality shows I have watched in the past. I hope we get another season.

Love how realistic it is

[beetrootsarered · 1 June 2023]

I'm not a fan of reality shows at all, the drama & emotions are usually too over the top & exaggerated for my liking, but I am OBSESSED with this show! I did not expect to get so invested in all the couples & their individual journey of growth. I got really emotional seeing how things evolved throughout the series, following through everyone's discovery of what they want & don't want in a partner. As a queer person myself, I found this show to be one of the best media representation of queer love. And for that I thank the producers & everyone who participated in the show, putting themselves out there so bravely.

So much drama, and I loved it :D

[keikoyoshikawa · 6/10 · 25 May 2023]

This is my guilty TV pleasure. Five short-term and medium-term couples have to decide if they want to marry or breakup. The third option is the hook up with someone else in the group. So evil. ;)

Unlike most other dating reality shows, at the beginning of the series the couples all have to temporarily breakup. They then get the chance to explore dating someone else in the group. And at the end each person has to make a big decision. That's the basic premise of the show.

There's a good ethnic mix, but the age group is quite similar - which makes sense. We have White, Latina, Black, and Asian couples. I'm not sure if the dialogues are scripted or not - sometimes the discussions just seem to be too smooth - and at times I wonder if some of them are actors.

But in the end it doesn't matter. In four lengthy first episodes we get some entertaining drama - jealousies, flirts, doubts, mistrusts, rejections, and affirmations. However, the focus is usually on just a few couples, and nothing much as happened aside from people talking.

So overall I can't give this series more than 6 stars. But let's see how it goes.

Finally!

[troopyszn · 10/10 · 3 June 2023]

I can't tell you how often where I contemplate watching a love or dating show but I always back out and never watch anything because it's always a heterosexual show. It's nice to see different into the queer love lives, versus your typical straight show. Once I scrolled and saw the title on Netflix I started to watch it immediately and I was not disappointed it's everything you look for in a dating show, it also keeps you on your toes and constantly predicting the outcome. Thank you to whoever created the Ultimatum Queer Love, I hope that we can continue to see additional seasons in the future!

I wasn't sure if I liked it, but honestly, I LOVED it.

[kateann1027 · 10/10 · 23 August 2023]

I am not familiar with this segment of the population as a straight woman, so went into this not knowing how I would feel but was open to the experience.

I thought it would be "different" from heterosexual relationships, but it's NOT, it's just the same. Women loving each other was so beautiful to me, and the challenges they faced is just the same as any other Love relationship/potential marriage/situation.

I found the issues, concerns, potential and real "cheating" scenarios, and experiencing/seeing a really true " narcissist " up close and personal, was very interesting. I have attracted many of those types in my life, unfortunately.

Bottom line, Love truly is Love Gay, straight, non-binary, trans, whatever you want to call it. It doesn't matter how you "name it", it's real, honestly displayed, and even though this is a "reality show", I felt like almost every participant (EXCEPT ONE WOMAN) went in with honest and true intentions to figure out their relationship in an authentic way.

I learned quite a bit about myself being in the "viewing" experience and feeling the pain, heartbreak, joy and connection with every experience displayed by real women struggling with intimacy and choosing their own needs, some for the first. Time.

Proves One Thing

[westpenn49 · 2/10 · 18 June 2023]

Gay or straight, Queer or not people can do the dumbest things in a quest for the immortality that television can offer. The premise of the show is that one member of a couple wants to get married the other doesn't. That should really be the end right there. Staying in such a relationship is self defeating behavior. Break it off and get some counseling - OR go on television and show the world.

This is reality television at its - I hesitate to say finest - but most real probably works. It does say something about us as society. Not a good something but something none the less.

Since my mother said to always try to be nice, JoAnna Garcia Swisher in a stunning green gown did manage to keep my attention. Voyeurs will disagree with my assessment and perhaps if you can submit to more than the first episode you will find something of worth - I doubt it.

Lesbian in the house

[diaz-karina112 · 10/10 · 2 June 2023]

Being gay is incredible. I love this show. It's so raw so realistic. The couples truly love each other. I myself have been with my partner for 10 years and I don't see myself being with anyone else. I love her unconditionally but this is an awesome show. It shows us as we are. This woman are so matured. Even with all the cheating they move on. They learn to move on. They put their love above all the bs. The only one who bother me a bit was Yoli but other than that I'm glad she was able to get thru. Years of being with someone knowing them fully doesn't just go away. I feel like destiny picks our partners you don't need to do much. Just be faithful and love them unconditionally because they are there for a good reason. Don't throw it all way for passion.

What's missing from the Housewives series?

[emandino · 1/10 · 9 September 2023]

Cunilingus!!!

What a piece of trash TV. This is not the representation for which we fought so hard over the last 50 years. Netflix must do something to put an end to the Writers & Actors strike once and for all because it is obvious that these series of reality TV isn't working or delivering on the quality of programming for which Netflix is known.

For example and in what many therapists will call a textbook example of projection, one can see that the visceral hate reaction to Vanessa is because of character similarities which is what attracts Rae to her in the first place. The primordial difference, Vanessa doesn't doesn't hide herself behind the façade of a classy sophisticated Victorian young lady.

On a different subject, you want to tell me that after all the money and time spent, this experiment result is 80% failure? And that is if Aussie finally gets out of her head, gets the professional supports that she needs and do something with her life instead of panicking and running away at the slightest sign of a confrontation.

In all honesty, the only one that succeeded in walking away from that entire toxic fiasco with some sense of self respect, growth and unharmed is Xander.

It was a waste of time and money. It's the kind of show that made me consider canceling my subscription.

Interesting show but provides a lack of diversity within the couples

[tjxdnwm · 8/10 · 24 October 2023]

I liked the show a lot, mainly because there are little to none lesbian reality tv shows.

It was very raw and emotional and represented a lot of real issues of relationships that are very much relatable.

It had an interesting concept, especially since any person could potentially end up with anyone else participating in the show.

I did not like however that almost all the couples consisted of one masc and one fem partner, since this can be a bit of a stereotype, it might be the reality for many lesbian couples but by far not for all.

I also would've preferred a queer woman hosting the show instead of a straight one.

My internet crushed and i had to watch this

[sevdakarababa-71077 · 1/10 · 24 June 2023]

When my internet crushed i have to open netflix pre-download shows. One of them was this one. Omg! Why all this people were whining, talking about feelings day and night. They were like psycholog talking with cliche over understanding, analysing and etc. None of them were worth to try. Besides Xavier which she is a good and honest person. Physically none of them attractive, annoying group of people. I dont see any benefits from this show to socitey. From the begining concept is wrong. You cant force someone to get marry. That is weong and will end up bad. Some of the couples were fighting like dog and cat and they want to get marry? They cant be that stu...

Lesbians Couples. So?

[zconkerite · 3/10 · 18 June 2023]

Five lesbian couples who were not certain about the relationships they were already in, agree to be on camera. Drama. They come across as immature in their own expectations of what relationships are. Butch, fem and nonbinary whatever. Boring as heck! Whatever the premise, this setup is embarrassing! Were they paid well enough to subject each other to this kind of torture in front of the show's viewers? Lesbian relationships in private are not perfect by any means and pretty much like straight relationships but there's something about this display of 'what can go wrong when you don't know your partner, much less yourself before getting into a relationship of any kind' that though not limited to straights really looks bad on lesbians who imitate straight partnering. It's just embarrassing to reveal it to the world or whoever has time to waste watching this.