The Matchmaker (2010) User Reviews

Not an easy film for a non-Israeli to review

[Red-125 · 8/10 · 26 July 2011]

The Israeli movie Once I Was (Pa'am Hayiti) was shown in the US with the title The Matchmaker (2010). It was written and directed by Avi Nesher. The film was very popular in Israel, where it won four Israeli Academy Awards. The other reviewers of this film are either Israelis or are familiar with Israeli culture, so they can do a better job than I can discussing the reality of the movie. For example, it is set in the seaport of Haifa in 1968, and there are questions about the authenticity of the sets and the accents. I will leave these topics to the experts.

I'm reviewing the film more on its plot and acting. The plot is fascinating. A Holocaust survivor, Yankele Bride (Adir Miller) is a smuggler and petty criminal. That's his profession, but his hobby is matchmaking. His job is to find mates for people who, for whatever reason, are considered undesirable.

The saddest of these people is a young woman, Sylvia, who is very beautiful but has achondroplasia. (The role is played by the extraordinary actress Bat-El Papura.) Sylva wants to be married, but no person of normal height will consider her as a spouse. Even the hapless character called Meir the Librarian turns away from Sylvia when he meets her. Yankele does his best for her, but he never succeeds.

The most obvious theme of the movie is a coming-of-age story of Arik Burstein (Tuval Shafir), whose father is also a Holocaust survivor. Arik starts work as Yankele's "spy," the person who checks out the matchmaker's clients to make sure that they are who and what they say they are. (There's another theme about a visiting American cousin, who is a liberated young woman, but that subplot never goes anywhere.)

The key theme, as I saw it, is that Holocaust survivors were welcomed to Israel, but they weren't admired or honored. As Arik's father says, "people always want to know what we had to do in order to survive." The clash of cultures--eastern European survivors who were seen as victims vs. Israelis who had fought for independence--is in the background of the entire movie. (Sometimes this clash is overt, sometimes it's subtle, but it's always there.)

Of course, Arik is impressed by the brash, streetwise Yankele, as opposed to his own quiet, respectable father. We are supposed to be impressed by Yankele too, because his criminal activities are treated as amusing foibles. I don't think that smuggling goods into Israel was an appropriate way to thank the country that took you in, but he is definitely a likable character in the movie. Each viewer will have to decide about Yankele for herself or himself.

I liked this film well enough to suggest that it's worth seeing if it comes along. I'm not sure it's a movie I would seek out for viewing. We saw The Matchmaker at the excellent Rochester Jewish Film Festival, screened at the wonderful Dryden Theatre at George Eastman House. It will work equally well on a small screen.

Noir thriller-cum-coming-of-age dramatic comedy that delights

[larry-411 · 8/10 · 12 July 2012]

Star Adir Miller plays Holocaust survivor Yankele Bride, a shady matchmaker with some mysterious operations on the side. He takes on a wide-eyed young apprentice, Arik (Tuval Shafir), who just wants an easy summer job. Naturally, the boy gets more than he bargained for in this classic tale of an ordinary man thrust into an extraordinary situation.

Miller, a veteran television actor, writer, and producer, is captivating (and a dead ringer for Vincent D'Onofrio). He dominates the screen, masterfully orchestrating the actors, and action, in every scene he's in. Shafir plays the streetwise assistant with a magnetic vulnerability that charms everyone who crosses his path. He's quite experienced himself as a teen idol in his native country, having grown up on Israeli TV as the star of a long-running hit series.

Writer/director Avi Nesher is a true veteran (this is his 16th feature), and it shows. Production values are high, befitting a director considered an icon of Israeli cinema. Veteran cinematographer Michel Abramowicz effectively captures the dramatic landscape of this Mediterranean port city, filled with bright blue skies, lush vegetation, and sweeping mountain vistas. "The Matchmaker" uses multiple locations, both exterior as well as interior. Arik's youthful world is brightly lit with a vibrant primary color palette -- not the pale, washed out blues and grays typical of modestly budgeted European films. In contrast, the seedy underbelly of the city within which Yankele operates is ominously dark and dusty, filled with shadows and potential dangers lurking around every corner.

Although set in Haifa in 1968, "The Matchmaker" could easily be a classic American noir thriller-cum-coming-of-age dramatic comedy. The evocative soundtrack of original late 60s songs is a plus (Steppenwolf's "Magic Carpet Ride," Jefferson Airplane's "White Rabbit"). Definitely worth repeat viewings.

Good-hearted, well acted, overdesigned

[Nozz · 8/10 · 2 July 2010]

When they came to Israel, survivors from Nazi Europe did not manage to leave their emotional scars behind.

Even decades later, they found themselves misunderstood by those who had not been "there" in Europe, but in some cases (at least as portrayed in this movie) they thought of love as the great healer and pursued it. They pursued individual love, not free love or universal love, so it is strange that the movie adds a subplot, with an explicit contrast, about the first stirrings of imported Woodstock culture in Israel. Too much, I think. I would rather have seen the story take place ten years earlier and leave out the counterculture. Two cultures, that of the European-born and that of the Israeli-born, would have been contrast enough. I would also rather have seen less effort put into a reconstruction of a square in the Haifa port area that makes it look too vibrant, too colorful, too Fellinesque. (This may be the first Israeli movie that would have benefited from a smaller budget.) But when the movie is on-topic and concentrates on the adult characters rather than on the dream-Haifa set, the period props, or the invasion of American music, it works very well and with the help of some admirable actors, it creates something fresh and good-hearted.

A Fantastic Coming to age movie by Avi Nesher 7/10

[saadanathan · 7/10 · 8 October 2021]

"The Matchmaker" (or Once I Was in Hebrew) is a movie by Avi Nesher, one of Israel's finest directors and one who has shaped Israeli cinema for decades.

The movie centers around the memories of an author, when he was a kid in 1968 in Haifa and the relationship he had with his father's childhood friend, Yankale Bride (Adir Miller).

Yankale Bride is a Matchmaker who recruits Erik (Tuval Shaffir, the author) for a summer job to search for people who wish to get married. The movie centers around all of Erik's tales and adventures during that summer vacation: How he falls in love with Tamara (Neta Porat), how he writes about his life as a mystery book, his love for spy and mystery tales and his encounter with the secrets of his fellow Yankale Bride.

Adir Miller and Maya Dagan are a good duo together throughout the whole film. The rest of the cast is perfect and lovely. The focus on the characters is really delicate. The movie shows the struggle of the characters facing the aftermath of the Holocaust and how people didn't know much about it.

The movie in general focuses on the theme of coming to age among kids, most certainly Erik, who narrates the movie throughout its span. Overall I really enjoyed it, Avi Nesher is known to be a director who focuses on many themes and genres in his movies, just like Spielberg. Even though many believe his movies to be too deep and heavy, this one is less heavy and more emotional and entertaining. Highly recommend it.

One of the best Israelies movies ever.

[yaronyung · 10/10 · 24 April 2011]

Sensitive, funny and smart. This movie stay with you days after watching. The directing is accurate and Adir Miller is great as the main actor (The match maker). The story really reflects the life in Israel in the late 60s' and early 70s'. The sad story of the holocaust survivors, combined with the stories of those Jews who were born in Israel, and those who immigrated from other countries rather then from Europe, or those who immigrated before WWII is shown in a very delicate way through the story of a young teenager and the matchmaker. The movie also raises some interesting moral issues and as said, It leaves you to think about it days afterwards. Great movie!!!

Wonderful film

[rzg-1 · 10/10 · 23 September 2010]

I am hardly a fan of Adir Miller, as a matter of fact I don't really like him as an actor, however, to every rule there is an exception, and in Mr miller's case - this movie is it. The rest of the cast is also spectacular. Who shell we start with? Maja Dagan is stunning as Clara, Bat-El Papura's performance as Sylvia the midget is amazing, and one looks forward to seeing her in future films. The historic events are described in an accurate manner-no historical discrepancies and all described events had actually happened (including the story about the cinema run by a family of seven midgets - true story). Wonderful film - go go go you wont regret

Engrossing Drama and Recreates a Time That Was

[wrkcwnwnx · 9/10 · 8 February 2016]

This film is a success on several levels. First of all, it is an engrossing drama and coming of age story and second it recreates a time and place long gone. The coming of age story involves a 16 year old boy's contact with a warm hearted but slightly sleazy character from his father's youth. Perhaps I related to this young man because I too, at the age of 16, had a similar character in my life. And life after all, is about learning to deal with various situations, some of which have to potential to corrupt you, but all of which are learning experiences. Many films present a story, but do not give you a reason to care about the characters. This film fully develops the characters and, consequently, give you a reason to care about their outcomes. Some reviews have a criticized a sub plot involving a beautiful young women. Really, were you ever a 16 year old boy?. Is it possible to have a story about a 16 year old and not have sex in it?

I also liked the recreation of 1968 Israel, a place and time I never saw even though I was offered a summer kibbutz experience as a 16 year old in 1969. The Hebrew name of the film translates as "Once I was". The Israel of today, which I know well (I learned to speak Hebrew as an adult), is very different, in some ways better and some ways worse. I cannot speak for the authenticity of the recreation, but the film certainly captured some of the major conflicts in the society without ever devolving to into an anti-Israel film.

The original name was a good choice and is more descriptive. Overall, this film is a success as a drama and as an historical essay.

This is what I'm talking' about...!!!

[avocadess · 10/10 · 8 January 2016]

THIS is how movies should be made -- but all to often are not...! When it comes to the movies that have been coming out in the past 30-plus years, but most especially the past 15 years, I pretty much have lost my appetite for film-watching as a hobby. Fortunately, there are some exceptions to the rule, the THE MATCHMAKER, set in Israel, is one of them! Forget the Hollywood formula flicks, special effects, "cool" creeps and so much in recent films that have all but ruined movies for me. Once in a while, when I have just about lost all hope, I can still find a jewel like this film.

I'm not going to tell you anything about it, except that it is "all that," without the vulgarities that run rampant in films today or the philosophical slants that try to convince the viewer that black is white and white is black. Nope. It's just excellent -- the story line, the cinematography, the acting, the settings. Just plain excellent. BRAVO!

Adir Miller could not save the film from failure

[dromasca · 4/10 · 30 May 2011]

For once the translation of the title works better than the name of the film itself. I did not like 'Paam Haiti' - the Hebrew name of Avi Nesher's film which translates into 'Once I Was' - which says too little about the characters in the movie and the world they live in. 'The Matchmaker' while focusing only on the principal character catches the essential, as the best part in the film in my opinion is indeed the hero played by Adir Miller.

Yankele Bride is a Holocaust survivor who lives in the harbor area of the Israeli city of Haifa in 1968. This is the year after the victory of Israel in the Six Days War, maybe the best year in the history of the young country, although the clouds of the continuing conflict with the Arab countries around are often seen or heard in the headlines shouted by the boys selling newspapers (there were no TV news flashes then, at least not in Israel who was going to have its first TV station only one or two years later). However, the principal heroes of the film do not and cannot share the atmosphere of optimism around - they are Holocaust survivors who live in a country which was created to harbor them, but is unwilling or unable to cope with the horror, the pain, the shame of what they went through. The extraordinary person who is Yankele Bride tries to cure at least part of them, to find for them the peer souls, to heal by bringing love. It's an extraordinary story, which unfortunately did not result into a good film - at least in my view.

Although not as successful as Nesher's previous film 'Turn Left at the End of the World' (that one had a fantastic title!) 'The Matchmaker' enjoyed a good reception in Israel. I confess I did not like it. I simply cannot cope with Nesher's style which mixes moving stories with the traditional (and outdated IMO) style of film-making that was popular in the 70s and 80s in Israel. His usage of popular actors is a waste, and having the extraordinary Miller and the tragic act of Maya Dagan coexist with the unnecessary make-up applied to Dov Navon and the clowny act of Eli Yatzpan is a combination that simply does not work. The coming to age story while acted quite well by the younger actors was unclear and brought back forcefully memories of an older film of Nesher (Ha Lahaka - The Band) from the beginning of the 80. Nesher has problems in telling the story even with the help of off-screen comments. Emphasize was put on building the atmosphere of Haifa in the 60s and this succeeds pretty well, but other details are carelessly treated - the characters are supposed to speak Hebrew with a Romanian accent, but this not how Romanian accent sounds in Hebrew, and worst of all - a Jew from Iasi (Yassi) in Romania would have had close to zero chances to get into Auschwitz during the second world war where numbers where tattooed on the arms of the prisoners. Overall this film deals with an important theme and brings to screen interesting characters, but the realization is disappointing, and even Adir Miller's impressing performance cannot save it from failure.

Well written

[zaaq · 10/10 · 11 September 2020]

1. Not the greatest actors and accents but it boasts carefully written dialogue, captivating characters, and an aesthetically pleasing 70's summer vibe of the region.

2. This movie packs dating angst and teenage nostalgia (for today's boomers), which isn't difficult to relate - mandela effect, anyone? ;P

3. The plot has a nice pace (no stalling/filler imo) and there are moral lessons all along the way. Some lines even came back to me just now; so I decided to recommend it.

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Fascinating insight into life in Israel

[wrxsti54 · 8/10 · 1 August 2020]

This movie resonates on so many levels because, via its rather uniquely Israeli story line, it covers some pretty heavy subjects. It begins in the time period of the movie's making (the early 2010's) with an unexpected bequest to middle aged Arik Burstein from a former mentor he had as an almost 16 year old in the summer of 1968 (the teen Arik is played by Tuval Shafir) by the name of Yankele Bride (played by famous Israeli actor Adir Miller). Yankele is a Romanian Holocaust survivor who makes most of his money as a secret smuggler of luxury goods at a time of strict import restrictions in Israel but his public occupation is as a traditional Matchmaker, a once fascinating and integral part of Jewish society. After a chance meeting where Yankele is touting for business amongst the siblings of some teenagers playing soccer, Arik tries to get Yankele to find a match for his fictitious thalidomide victim older sister and his mocking deception is unearthed at the same time as Yankle meets Arik's dad as they discover they were at school together in Romania and both survived the camps. Yankele is so impressed by Arik's brazen deception that he hires him as his spy to tail and check up on his various matchmaker clients to see if their stories stack up. The places Arik goes for Yankele makes for one of the most unusual teenage boy holiday jobs ever!

What unfolds are a series of wonderful nuanced looks at a variety of thorny issues: the way the original Israeli kibutznik's and freedom fighters judged the Holocaust emigres, the cone of silence that many camp survivors drew over their horrific experiences leaving the rising generation with little to go and the terrible emotional toll that the Holocaust cast over Israeli society as the movie is set at a time when the survivors were raising families and still relatively young. It also covers first teen love (between Arik and his best friend's gorgeous exotic Iraqi Jewish cousin Tamara played by Neta Porat) but also themes of unrequited love and of what happens when a charismatic but flawed man like Yankele becomes a hero and role model to a teenage boy.

Yankele's various attempts at matchups and his use of a beautiful but very emotionally damaged camp survivor Clara Epstein (played by Maya Dagan) as a courting trainer for his clients unearths Yankele's own infatuation for Clara that cannot go anywhere due to her huge issues and in parallel, we see Arik and Tamara's fascination for each other stumble its way to a more typical adolescent love match conclusion as Arik watches and learns from the master observer of love and relationships.

The movie ends on an interesting, at times sad but ultimately satisfying note where the fruits of Arik's bonding and loyalty to Yankele's unorthodox life pays off in the end. The acting by all the main actors was superb, Miller in the complexity of his character, Dagon as the beautiful but deeply traumatized Clara and Shamir in various coming of age transitions.

Tears and tears...

[atkinson112 · 9/10 · 26 October 2019]

After 'The Other Story', I wanted to see more of Nesher's films and found that one. Its not like the previous titles in Nesher's filmography and yet I cried so much at the ending. It really because of the charachters that nesher's having.