In the Bedroom (2001) User Reviews

Good human drama

[grantss · 7/10 · 13 December 2021]

Good human drama. Solid directorial debut from Todd Field. Pacing is a bit uneven though: the movie moves along fairly slowly for about 75% of its length, and then suddenly speeds up, and changes direction to a degree, towards the end.

Excellent performances all round. Sissy Spacek, Tom Wilkinson and Marisa Tomei deserved their Oscar nominations.

a good movie, but whoa...

[ImmortalCorruptor · 7/10 · 21 June 2002]

I'd heard of this from the Oscars, as well as other critical sources. I've heard it was an awesome movie that will go down in history. It was a great film, but whoa...we got a little carried away here.

This is a great movie. Not because of the story, nor the directing...the greatness is the result of the abilities of the actors. If this were cast with a lower caliber of actors, it would've been a blah film that wouldn't have had much mention.

But there were the actors. They tore it up for this. There was no over acting, no playing it down for "less is more". Everyone in this film is someone you can believe in, they're all people you've met and live with. At times it was painful to watch how real the characters were, because of their reactions to the story, but that's life, and this was a quiet film with honesty in mind. It never insults your intelligence. Not once.

My only beef with this was the timing. The directing was good. That's all I can say. The actors were directed perfectly, but the timing seemed a bit slow in some places. It felt as though sometimes a point was made and a mood was established...again...and again...and again...etc...

Besides the fact that the movie needed a shave, I'd recommend it to anyone who enjoys a thriller with it's feet planted well in reality. But only for the abilities of the actors, nothing more.

Fantastic Pain

[kbumbulis · 6/10 · 22 January 2002]

I sat through this film with my girlfriend who'd been talking about it for weeks. I'd heard wonderful things about the acting and little else. Now I know why.

Let me say the actors were all wonderful. As opposed to most movies, I actually felt I was watching real people. The performances were very believable. And for me, that alone was the salvation of the film.

I don't know the actual length of the film but I can tell you it was long and it felt it.

Part of this is due to the subject matter. If your idea of a good film is watching people suffer for 2 hours, THIS IS YOUR FILM. The movie is a well done character study of misery and grief. Even my girlfriend who loves a good cry found the movie to laborious and depressing. I'll say again; the film is a FANTASTIC, WELL ACTED exercise in the details of misery. For some, this may make it a great film. And in many respects this probably qualifies it as a fantastic film. But, perhaps as I'm getting older, I find less need or desire to focus on the hardships of life. And when I actually venture into a theater to watch a film; I want to escape. This movie makes you ponder grief. And frankly, who needs a movie to do that?

If you want to judge a film entirely on the merits of cinematography, acting, maturity and meeting its goals; this film deserves a much higher rating then I gave it. (I gave it a 6) Matter of fact, part of me feels guilty for the low score I gave it.

On the other hand, while technically it was a well made film, I was glad when it was over and don't feel better having seen it. (Other then appreciating that a film actually portrayed real characters) The subject matter was too depressing. The pacing was too slow. I released a sigh of relief when it ended.

A Lesson in Acting

[Hitchcoc · 9/10 · 14 October 2009]

This movie was so well done, I felt as if I were an outsider, looking through someone's window. Then the tragedy occurs, we were treated to what probably would have happened after a crime of passion, the imprecision of the evidence, the lack of a witness, and the ability of the perpetrator to avoid prosecution. Mostly the movie is about acting. Sissy Spacek is amazing, so tightly wound and in control. Her somewhat passive husband becomes her foil until the fuse is lit. Then it all comes to a head. I can't imagine living through something like this where your allies become so worthless. There is a scene where the prosecuting attorney jingles his change and looks at his watch while spouting a bunch of meaningless jargon about justice. The father goes catatonic while this is happening. Things play out like they do in life; there are no winners and no losers.

Not a False Moment to Be Found. Stunning.

[rddj05 · 9/10 · 2 November 2008]

Every once in awhile, a filmmaker comes along and adds a pitch-perfect sensibility to a compelling story, well-written script, and perfect cast. This has happened with In the Bedroom. Though I saw, and enjoyed, director Todd Field's 2nd feature, Little Children, when it came out a few years back, I was truly astounded by In the Bedroom.

At a time when Americans' tastes in films are getting more and more juvenile, In the Bedroom is that rare film; one aimed adults. The characters and story line is compelling, the shots kept simple, yet beautiful, and the feel of the film is as real as most you will see. In the Bedroom would fit in perfectly with the some of the films from golden age of the 70s film-making. Unfortunately, we are seeing this less and less of those types of films these days.

It is hard to find a false moment, whether in dialogue or behavior, in this film. It deals with circumstances that we hear about every day, yet is no less captivating because of it. We are not clobbered over the head with the moments we are meant to feel deeply, yet they are apparent and often devastating to watch. There is an old saying, "you know the truth when you see it", and that certainly applies to this film. There was a knot in my stomach the entire first 30 minutes of the film, as director Field slowly builds to something you know is inevitable, and almost can't bare to watch.

Excellent performances turned in by Spacek, Wilkinson, Tomei, as well as all the supporting players. Proof, once again, that actors often make some of the finest directors.

Disappointing

[TheDiva802 · 6/10 · 21 February 2002]

I went to see this film with much anticipation, given the excellent reviews and Oscar nominations. While it is much better than most of the juvenile fluff out there, I don't understand the hype. The acting is solid, with Tom Wilkinson being exceptional among the cast. It was great to see Sissy Space again, but I found her character to have one emotional note throughout and her character's cigarette smoking was completely unnecessary and distracting. I find the positive comments about the cinematography odd, since I found myself paying attention to the camera angles too many times; if I notice, it's not subtle enough for my taste. My main complaint is that it was just too long.

Delivers what Movies are meant to deliver.

[pdvincit · 10/10 · 26 August 2008]

I have friends who do not want to see dark movies. Too depressing, given the news these days. I can understand that.

But farce grows quite tiresome. Clever repartee is fine sometimes. Action films are frequently exhausting and you can only watch so many cars, trains, planes and buildings explode. Plus, you are hungry an hour later.

This movie is a rare opportunity to miss excessive violence, pratfalls and smart-mouthed kids, teenage titillation, explosions, chases, stock characters, overacting and thin plot contrivances.

Enjoy a movie where the characters are complex, the actors spot-on in their craft, and the story is compelling.

Or don't. "Independence Day" is probably on cable somewhere.

Interesting idea unfulfilled

[KALKevin · 6/10 · 5 February 2002]

In the Bedroom features a dramatically interesting premise. How do a father and mother, who have not been open to their son's relationship with an older woman (who is not yet divorced and who is raising her young son alone), deal with the grief when that relationship results in their son's death?

As such, In the Bedroom could have been an incredible look at grief and the grieving process that a family goes through when losing someone who was on the verge of becoming a successful young man. But In the Bedroom takes a tangential turn in its third act that, in my opinion, undermines the film's premise. It also leaves some of its characters (including two of its main characters) grossly underwritten and underdeveloped.

Tom Wilkinson is truly great (and the main reason to see the film) as the young man's father who seeks relief for his grief through ways that actually lower him to the level of the man who killed his son. Sissy Spacek is good, although her role is one of the two that lacks any depth whatsoever. We are told by Wilkinson's character (after the fact) that she has been a cold-hearted, selfish woman. Yet we haven't really witnessed anything that would prepare us for that revelation. This is, of course, not Spacek's fault. She tries hard in her role and comes off very well, but the intricacies of her character are absent in the writing.

The same goes for Marisa Tomei, as the young mother whose ex-husband has killed her new boyfriend. She gives it her all in a dramatic and very well-played role. But the role, like Spacek's, is underdeveloped and literally disappears with one quarter of the movie still left to go. And her disappearance leaves a large, gaping hole in the development of not only her character, but also of the Spacek character.

A great deal of praise has been heaped on In The Bedroom, and normally such universal praise would indeed signal a praise-worthy movie. But while In The Bedroom has some fine scenes and excellent performances, it is lacking a great deal when it comes to character development. It also forces its hand with overt dashes of "symbolism," such as the title reference and a final shot that does nothing short of hit you over the head with its meaning, almost as if the filmmakers are screaming, "Do you get it?"

something's going on in the bedroom

[Evil_Will_Hunting · 9/10 · 10 December 2002]

9 out of 10

Watching Todd Field's feature film debut `In the Bedroom,' I could not help but be impressed by the sheer audacity of the film, by the spot-on performances, and by the many twists and turns that no critic should reveal. Yet amidst all the film's obvious strengths, there was still something missing-something to tie it all together, something to endow the film with more than just a fleeting impression.

Ironically perhaps, I was provided this missing bit of information not by the film, but by a male audience member sitting at the end of my aisle, trying to explain the point of the film in less than derogatory terms to his female companion.

`You're missing the whole point of the film,' he said. `It was all about men being controlled by women.'

No doubt he read this interpretation from someone else's review of the film (and what a sweet piece of justice it would be if that critic were a woman). It is quite possible that he was not even aware of the ramifications of what he had said. But this man's legitimacy aside, his statement has not left me since, and the film in turn has had the same luck in escaping me.

We are first introduced to Frank Fowler (Nick Stahl, `Bully') and Natalie Strout (Marisa Tomei, `My Cousin Vinny'), he a young college student with no immediate plans to settle down, she an older divorcee raising two children. They are in love, though for Frank she is little more than a `summer fling.' Meanwhile Natalie's ex-husband, Richard (William Mapother, `Mission: Impossible 2'), is unwilling to let her out of his life, and begins to be physically abusive to Frank. Frank's parents, Matt (Tom Wilkinson, `The Full Monty') and Ruth (Sissy Spacek, `The Straight Story')-both in top form here-show appropriate concern for their only son, and they intervene in this dangerous love triangle with unexpected twists and tragic results.

The film jumps about in tone from a light romantic romp to a seeming political treatise to a creepy, nocturnal thriller. Some have criticized the film for this alleged inconsistency in tone, slow pacing, and a deliberate ending. But these naysayers have overlooked the point.

Frank may not even really love Natalie, so much as he loves being controlled by her and sating his mother by being with her. Richard becomes a threat to everyone because he is unwilling to let Natalie consider him out of her life; he is a slave to her whim. The resulting tension reveals a rift between Frank's parents, and in particular, his father's actions in the end demonstrate a helpless allegiance to his wife and her command.

Field, who up until now has been primarily an actor (he was the piano player in `Eyes Wide Shut'), understands these important points but does not beat the viewer over the head with them. He presents a reality more raw and true than any other piece of film in recent memory. Yet he does so with a restraint that Hollywood seems to have forgotten. Most of the film's violence is overheard or implied, and only explicitly shown when necessary for the audience to completely understand what has happened. This allows for more subtle details, like a bridgekeeper who must run around in circles to alternate traffic between the road and the sea, to emerge as truly haunting, lasting images.

But `In the Bedroom' is not about any of these things. It is, first and foremost, about its characters. It does not fall prey to plot mechanics, nor does it flinch at exploring even the most sympathetic characters' darkest sides. For this and so many other reasons which are best left discussed behind closed doors between loved ones, `In the Bedroom' succeeds at turning the camera on flawed relationships of all forms, and it is one of the best films of the year.

So Near And Yet So Far...

[LaurieMann · 6/10 · 19 January 2002]

The first 3/4ths of this movie has some of the most quietly glorious film-making I have ever seen. The capture of the look and feel of small-town Maine was perfect, and the flinty nature of many of the characters was also very well captured. I could go on and on just about the way the lighting, even the selection of the kinds of violets in the home was just right.

The movie was sweet, then very sad, but the first 3/4ths of the movie was also very, very true.

And that's why the last quarter of the movie is such a huge disappointment. I kept waiting to hear a seductive female voice say "Open Your Eyes..." but it just didn't happen.

Sissy Spacek, Tom Wilkinson, Mariesa Tomei and Nick Stahl are all wonderful. Go and watch them. And as soon as you see a character do something completely unreal, walk out then. Or wait until you can rent it and fast forward once the scriptwriter and director decide it's time to start showing a rather different kind of a movie.

When Tragedy Strikes.....Chaos Strikes.

[tfrizzell · 22 May 2002]

First-time director Todd Field's "In the Bedroom" is a dark and disturbing film which is both a joy and a trial to sit through. Recent high school graduate Nick Stahl is having a little bit of fun during his last summer of freedom. He is seeing Marisa Tomei (Oscar-nominated), a woman twice his age who has young children and is separated from her shady husband (William Mapother in an appropriately chilly performance). Mother and music teacher Sissy Spacek (Oscar-nominated) worries about the relationship while father and town doctor Tom Wilkinson (also Oscar-nominated) shrugs off the partnership as a simple summer fling. When tragedy strikes, the simple life in Camden, Maine turns into chaos for all involved. "In the Bedroom" is one of the roughest films I have ever watched. It is a movie that is thought-provoking in the fact that everything seems so normal and yet darkness looms overhead for the primary characters in the film. The fact that the film takes place in rural Maine just makes it that much more scary. When one thinks of situations from the movie occurring, few think of a place like Maine. Much like "Fargo", "In the Bedroom" shows that bad elements are everywhere, even in the most unlikely of places. However, be warned that "In the Bedroom" does not go for the black humor that "Fargo" went for. This is a film that will chill you to the bone. It is a must-see and easily one of the top five or ten films of 2001. 5 stars out of 5.

Revenge shown to be illusion in this realistic work.

[Erick-12 · 10/10 · 18 November 2003]

The film is, as all the critics say, emotionally involving, wrenching and all that. Acting is natural and realistic, down to the nitty-gritty. The valuable and rare thing here is that the story works against the most common plot at the movies today: the revenge plot. Here instead, revenge gets a more ambiguous and thoughtful treatment. We are accustomed to being flattered as an audience, sent home feeling good that "our" side wins in the end against the evil. In this film that stereotypical and simplistic Good vs Evil is taken apart. The revenge leaves us feeling unusually unsettled, which is a very good thing in a deeper sense.

a real modern classic

[JudgeMalone · 9/10 · 2 January 2004]

A rarity in modern cinema, In the Bedroom is a movie for thinking adults that is one of the most thorough yet subtle examinations of violence and its consequences I've ever seen. Tom Wilkerson gives a masterful and restrained performance, and Sissy Spacek and nearly everyone else is uniformly excellent. Although it is a searing and unflinching look at nearly unspeakable grief, it is poignant and thoughtful and even has scenes of humor if you are ready for it. Todd Field's screenplay is one of the most brilliant in recent memory. I really wish we had more mature stuff like this coming out of Hollywood. Powerful films that deal with violence and its aftermath and meaning like this make films like Kill Bill look even more repellent than they already are.

A Subtly Brilliant And Restrained Film About Human Nature, Instinct, And Emotion...

[leyward · 10/10 · 12 February 2006]

Everything about this film is wonderfully done, from the restrained direction and acting, to the inexorable progression to tragic conclusion following preceding events. All the actors and acting are excellent, with a particularly subtle and brilliant portrayal by Tom Wilkinson as Dr. Fowler. Always great, he is, in my estimation, one of the unsung and underrated actors in film today. Sissy Spacek is also wonderful, and the inevitable emotional fall-out in their relationship after their shared experience is beautifully done. Very human - and very real.

Though difficult to watch, it is a great film, great story, with great performances all around by gifted actors. Not to be unsung are the excellent performances by Marisa Tomei, and all the other supporting actors. A film that would benefit one to watch more than once, there is that much substance there. Worth paying particular notice to is the opening metaphor in the scene on the lobster boat where Tom Wilkinson (Dr. Fowler) explains the nature of how a lobster-trap works - and the name the lobster-men (and tradition) have given to the inner part of the trap. This is the metaphor for the human story that will, tragically, unfold.

A great film, with great work all around. Todd Field is a director to remember.

Slow....very, very slow.....and unpleasant....but exceptional.

[planktonrules · 9/10 · 3 November 2013]

"In the Bedroom" is a rather unpleasant and very slow film. I guarantee that many folks will not want to watch this film or will give up partway through it. This is because although the movie is exceptionally well made, it's also incredibly sad and its pace is like lead. Now this isn't really a complaint--just some reasonable observations about the film. So, keep this in mind before you decide to watch.

The film begins with a relationship that seems rather irrational and doomed. A married woman with children is getting a divorce. In the meantime, she's having a relationship with a young man who appears to be about 18 or perhaps 19. The woman (Marissa Tomei) is significantly older and the young man is supposed to be going off to college--and his mother (Sissy Spacek) naturally wants the young man to focus on school and not this still-married woman. Soon, the estranged husband returns and begins pressuring the wife to take him back--and he becomes very violent. The wife and the boyfriend are morons--they don't go to the police and the husband's behavior escalates until he murders the young man. All this occurs in the first third of the movie and the rest of the film consists of showing the parents (Spacek and Tom Wilkenson) dealing with their grief. Neither really talks about it and they internalize their pain and become distant from one another. However, rather unexpectedly, the movie takes a very drastic and violent turn at the end--one that is quite satisfying to see but which also is difficult to watch.

It's important to point this out, the portrayals of the parents coping with their grief is incredibly well done and realistic. But who wants to see this? Not most folks. In many ways it reminded me of "Rabbit Hole"--another amazingly well acted film about parental grief that is brilliant but difficult to watch. And, since most folks don't want to be THIS depressed, they're movies you should think twice about before you watch. Exceptional....and unpleasant.

This is beat out Memento??

[Kineshanko · 7/10 · 25 February 2002]

How could this pretty good movie beat out the outstanding Memento for a Best Picture Nomination? This is not an Oscar movie!! The acting was good, especially the lead male actor. Sissy didn't do anything that great, just moped around angry. This movie is overrated.

An acting masterclass

[adsdmnel · 9/10 · 20 March 2006]

An exceptional film which emulates the astounding talents of Tom Wilkinson. I thought he was OK in The Full Monty, but he is exceedingly well cast in the role of father who is grieving inside the loss of his only child. Tom acts with intelligence and resounding compassion as a man driven to revenge. The film is delivered and directed with a slow build up of tension towards a shocking and absorbing climax. This film offers great performances from the ensemble of actors and is directed intelligently. It maybe a tragic and slow film but it will leave the audience empathising with the characters rather than sympathising with them. A truly remarkable and contemporary film.

Somewhat Slow But Still Worth While

[Theo Robertson · 7/10 · 20 August 2003]

The premise for IN THE BEDROOM is absolutely no different from umpteen bland TVMs I`ve seen . The producers are almost certainly aware of this so they`ve decided to make a slow , moody haunting film . There`s a great deal to admire in this descion but unfortunately this doesn`t lend itself to an engrossing entertaining film , but seeing as this movie wasn`t produced for mass entertainment in mind it shouldn`t be taken as a criticism

One very valid criticism that can be fired at IN THE BEDROOM is the editing which has a very jarring quality: Cut to fishing boat , cut to barbacue , cut to interior of house , cut to etc which I found very irritating while there`s a scene with Matt Fowler talking to his wife Ruth in the kitchen which cuts from Matt walking out of kitchen to bedroom where Ruth now lies in bed reading a book ! There`s basically nothing to indicate this is an entirely different scene . I also have a minor problem about the way Matt Fowler is written , he`s Doctor Matt Fowler but never comes across as being a white collar professional as he`s seen fishing out at sea , chopping wood and playing cards with blue collar types . I know America prides itself on being a classless society but Doctor Fowler comes across as too egaliterian

Despite this minor flaw in characterisation Tom Wilkinson gives an outstanding performance as Matt Fowler . If you don`t know this already let me point out Wilkinson is a Brit best known for his supporting role in the totally overrated THE FULL MONTY but he`s totally convincing as an American in this film and it`s great to see an actor play their role in such an understated way . The rest of the cast are equally good and everyone manages to communicate the grief their characters are going through.

I did criticise a point in the script earlier but - Despite being somewhat slow - the script is a good one devoid of melodramatic nonsense that could have so easily have infected it and contains nice little touches like when Matt sees the name " Strout " and gives a haunted look after being reminded of his grief . It`s something I can relate to when a simple word reminds me of loss . I guess everyone can relate to this too .

So IN THE BEDROOM is a good film , but it should be pointed out you`ll be disappointed if you watch it expecting a feel good movie

A Character-Driven Movie!

[g-bodyl · 9/10 · 14 April 2015]

In the Bedroom is a movie that will instantly connect with lovers of film. To those who can only appreciate special effects and movies with lack of plots, stay away from this film. The movie is undoubtedly hard to watch, but it's a powerful, character-driven movie about unforeseen consequences of a tragedy. The film is powerfully acted by underrated actors like Tom Wilkinson and Sissy Spacek. It is movies like these that make me appreciate the art of cinema and storytelling.

Todd Field's film is about a college freshman home for the summer who is dating a soon-to-be-divorced mother many years his senior. This relationship causes a rift between his mother and father, especially after a serious tragedy occurs affecting their lives forever.

The film has a good cast of underrated and underused actors and I feel like they all did a good job in particular Tom Wilkinson and Sissy Spacek. Spacek shows an emotional side to herself, which is perfectly normal as any mother would show. Wilkinson however keeps a calm reserve state of mind, but the end of the movie is his show. Nick Stahl also did a decent job, and likewise for Marisa Tomei.

Overall, In the Bedroom is a slow-moving, but very effective movie that relies upon its characters more than anything else. The film is emotional, but sometimes the film shows different takes on getting to that state of mind. An incredibly strong script as well as fantastic acting makes this film a worthy watch. But beware of the tepid pace, as only serious film-goers may appreciate this kind of pace.

My Grade: A

Excellent performances, mediocre story

[=G= · 7/10 · 14 August 2002]

"In the Bedroom" is yet another victim of hypekill, suffering from too many accolades for too little value. On the upside, the film offers a solid cast, some excellent performances, and good art and technicals. On the downside, it is tedious, has a meager plot, and doesn't show us anything new. I rented the DVD because of kudos and hype and was disappointed to find the only suspense in the film is the nagging question: When is this flick going to get moving? An excellent drama if expectations are kept within reason. (B)

Straightforward drama ultimately doesn't dig deeply enough...

[moonspinner55 · 6/10 · 13 May 2005]

Fascinating film about how women manipulate men--in the bedroom and out. Married couple Tom Wilkinson and Sissy Spacek worry about their son when he becomes involved with an attractive mother of two, recently separated from her volatile husband. Personal story of how close-knit people deal differently with tragedy has powerhouse emotional moments but is mostly directed in a hushed manner by Todd Field, whose narrative vision is stylish and yet straightforward. Field, who also co-adapted the screenplay with Rob Festinger from Andre Dubus' short story "Killings", has a keen eye for minute details, though perhaps he's too matter-of-fact in telling this story. The cast is solid and elevates the material, which is intriguing but perhaps could use an extra layer, a hint of mystery. The picture is admirable but distant. It has a rapt quality yet it stays coolly on the surface. **1/2 from ****

A fine, intelligent, thought provoking film.

[paulod21 · 8/10 · 4 October 2002]

With fine, nicely under-stated performances all round, this film shows what can be achieved with a modicum of thought and a good script!! No need for special effects, with the characters all showing their humanity. It raises the question of whether two wrongs make a right, and the morality of murder. We need more such films, aimed at adults who enjoy being challenged to think rather than fed hollywood bull!!!

Very good 1st half, not so sure about the last 3/4

[Bonneyboy · 7/10 · 24 February 2002]

I'm a sucker for Oscars, so naturally I had to see this film once it had been nominated. I didn't read any reviews before stepping in to watch the film. Therefore, I was really getting into the film in the 1st half hour, where the director was exploring many themes (parent-child relationship, the connection to nature, love vs. responsibility) in very interesting ways. At this point, it was already better than the starting of Moulin Rouge, which is a film that has a terrible 1st 1/4 hour. The characters also connect much better then LOTR and certainly give more room for the actors to shine. And at least it didn't duck the really unpleasant (Beautiful Mind) to win votes. And when the 1st surprise in the film came about 1/3 of the film (the whole theater gasped pretty loudly), I was thinking "Great! Anything but a typical Hollywood film".

However, the ending 1/2 hour was horribly Hollywood - I actually was telling myself, please don't end the film that way.... but it did. and then the whole cinema was definitely underwhelmed.

The acting was very good, so it's definitely worth watching for Spacek and Wilkinson. However, it felt one scene was specially written for an Oscar nomination. (And I would say Spacek emoted well, but it does seem such a cliche simply to give Oscars to the most emotive performance. I would love for Renee to win since when was the last time a comedic actress won?) They could have given Tomei more screen time in the 2nd half, but she was pretty good at the starting of the film.

Leaving the theater, I admired the director for his unflinching exploration of a dark topic but the 2nd half seems to drag simply because he just stuck to that - no subplot and too much repetition. In the end, the plot was rather banal, lifted up by some intense acting and interesting directing... but the script fell flat at the end.

Horrible Movie

[princessmabel · 1/10 · 29 April 2005]

Why do people think that you need to touch on a horribly tragic topic to make a wonderful movie? There is enough sadness in the world without seeing a story of a vengeful father looking to try and right a wrong. This movie is depressing from the word go. A typical case of one person thinking they can solve another person's problem, only to be killed by the problem's source. And a parent trying to fix the tragedy by creating another one. It is painful to watch the parents suffer through the loss of their son. It offers no positive solution, or any thoughtful guidance for someone who has experienced such sad events in their own lives. Forget this movie. There are too many wonderful things in the world!

wow...pay attention for Sissy Spacek's name at this year's Oscars...

[poetellect · 9 May 2001]

So simple. So honest. So heartbreaking. I dare you to see this movie and not go through a self-invasive, heartfelt understanding for the familial and emotional conflicts these characters go through. one of the best films shown at Sundance, hands down. Not a movie for the emotionally squeamish...brutally powerful... Violent, excruciating truth and beauty...the raw emotional power imbued into the scenes with Wilkinson and Spacek are Oscar-worthy. Marisa Tomei finally gets a role worthy of her talent since My Cousin Vinny. Utterly unforgettable, and a slam-dunk certainty for some kind of oscar, whether screenplay, acting, or directorial.

Wow.