Sexo por compasión (2000) User Reviews

Attractive and entertaining Spanish/Mexican coproduction with good actors and decent filmmaking

[ma-cortes · 6/10 · 31 January 2019]

This interesting film deals with Dolores, Elisabeth Margoni, a 40 and some year old woman whose hubby , Jose Sancho, left her because of he can not stand her big generosity. Dolores runs a bar along with Floren, Mariola Fuentes, and she dedicates her life to work by helping people, which is to go to bed with other men of the little town such as Damian Alcazar, Alex Angulo, among others . Dolores, now called Lolita, turns to be so famous, thanks to her peculiar charity, that all men seek out her particular services. Things go wrong when her husband returns to the town and he learns her surprising activities.

Joyful and agreeable Spanish, Mexican film shot in Tlaxcala, Mexico. This a vibrant and feeling flick with enjoyable and bewildering scenes, it gets together drama and comedy : dramedy, though it is more comedy than drama. Despite its adult issue is by far an erotic film, but a wistful comedy and rated Parents Guide. At the beginning it is slow moving, sad and strange, but later on, it grows joyous and cheerful. This warm film is pretty well , even if has a silly and uneven plot flowing throughout, containing an unlikely and incredible premise, as a mature and kind woman who works to charity, providing happiness to a little town immersed in sadness by going to bed with all villagers. To be said that through her compassionate sex she brings the color to the town, in fact the first part of the movie is photographed in black and white and subsequently colour cinematography by cameraman Hofmann. The picture packs ridiculous incidents, light drama, brief laughs, confusion and mayhem. The flick follows the wake of Mexican and South American style : Magical Realism.

The movie was compellingly produced by Filmax : Carlos Fernandez, Julio Fernandez who have financed a lot of the Spanish cinema hits as Sleep tight, Transsiberian, The machinist, The way, Summer camp, Bullying, Rec saga, The returned, and cartoon, 3D films as Raton Perez, El Cid, Ginsaku, Donkeyxote . Being well and professionally directed by Laura Maña. She is a notorious secondary actress playing in films as Romasanta, Stand-by, Nowhere, Libertarias, Pasion Turca, Teta y luna. And she has directed a few prestigious films as Concepcion Arenal, Clara Campoamor, La vida empieza hoy, To die in San Hilario ,and Palabras encadenadas. This Sexo Por Compasion won awards in various Festivals such as : Rotterdam International Festival 2001 to best first work to Laura Maña, Guadalajara International Festival, Malaga Festival , Miamic Hispanic Film Festival and several others.

A Creative Little Film That Tackles Philosophical Issues of Love and Marriage

[gradyharp · 8/10 · 15 July 2005]

'Sexo por compasión' (COMPASSIONATE SEX) is a rare little film created in 2000 by Spanish director and writer Laura Mañá that dares to address controversial issues of marital fidelity, the 'oldest profession in the world', the impotence of a Catholic priest in holding his community together, and the irresistible importance of physical discourse in mending misconceptions and misunderstandings. Quite a challenge taking on all of these topics, but Laura Mañá has the skills to pull it off with the use of 'magical realism' and alluring cinematic knowledge and techniques. The final product is a joy! The setting is a small village (either in Spain or Mexico, we are not told exactly) on the verge of dying due to the bland boredom and blanket sadness of the town folk, the lack of children being born and in general due to a languorous malaise. The film is shot not in black and white but varying shades of gray. Dolores (Elisabeth Margoni) is an overweight childless woman obsessed with doing good deeds for others, a fact that drives her husband Manolo (José Sancho) berserk, threatening that if Dolores is unable to come up with an act that demands his forgiveness he will abandon her. Dolores seeks advice from the village priest (Juan Carlos Colombo) in confessional, but the haughty padre is angered by the fact that Dolores daily visits the confessional with nothing to confess. He tells her to go out and sin and then he will be able to hear her confession! Manolo leaves and the devastated Dolores is encouraged to move into the tavern owned by Floren (Mariola Fuentes) and with the loving advice of her friends she hears that the town is dying because the married couples are depressed. The sensitive Dolores hears from both the men and the women and under the pseudonym of Lolita, she invites the husbands to her new bed for free advice, consensual sex and enrichment. Lolita has discovered the source of the town's sadness and soon has slept with every man and keeps her free nurturing going while the women of the village marvel at how their husbands have changed for the better. At this point the town becomes alive, lovely, flowers grow, etc and the film is now in color.

Seeing the changes that have occurred drives the priest to build a cross and perform a ritual crucifixion! The women find Manolo and tell him how the town has changed and why - and the fact that all of the villagers consider Dolores/Lolita a saint. Manolo returns, is enraged, gathers the men together to convince them his wife is a prostitute and the town's life and joy return to the gray of black and white film. The women of the village are convinced that Manolo must be informed as to the sacrifice Lolita has been making and in order to do so they visit Manolo's humble house and line up for a toss in the hay with Manolo: after only several of the many women exit the house with smiles and gleams of physical satisfaction, Manolo weakly emerges admitting that such a process is indeed a sacrifice! How the village manages this mutual acceptance of Dolores and Manolo and incorporates the newfound 'therapy' into their lives constitutes the warmly humorous ending.

The large cast of unknown actors is splendid. There are many cameos (Leocadia played by Leticia Huijara is a zany old lady who insists on photographing herself and the events of the village on a daily basis!, etc) and Laura Mañá handles the direction of this potentially difficult story with amazing finesse. We can only hope she continues to create other films as unique and satisfying as SEXO POR COMPASION! Grady Harp

Who are we to judge others?What is right and what wrong?

[margo-16 · 8/10 · 30 June 2007]

A movie that gives ground for reflection and thought .What is justice and how we judge others ? Do we judge based on their actions or based on their intentions? If people judge Lolita based on her actions she should be condemned as a whore and realizing that they start throwing the biblical stones at her.

If they judge her based on her compassionate nature and good intentions to help the poor unloved men – then she should be regarded as a saint.

Interesting –who are we to judge others. What is right and what wrong? Under what circumstances something is wrong or right? One of the best movies I've seen recently. Kudos for Laura Mana- writer and director.

Wistful on surface, warm and vibrant in its heart

[Elori · 9/10 · 28 January 2006]

Much like "Lolita", the main character of the film, "Sexo por compasión", the film, revitalizes the desire to live in all who experience her. The beginnings of the film are decidedly gloomy and grey, but it grows colourful and cheerful. During its progress, it touches on sensitive themes of love and sex with a profound understanding. Despite its adult themes, the movie is as far removed from porn and "erotica" as possible. It is intended indeed for mature viewers, who do not need nudity or sweaty sex scenes to understand the themes.

This is a strong movie on all accounts. Deliberate directing, charming characters and an optimistic view of life bring it well through. What's noteworthy about the characters is that they aren't cast into restrictive roles, instead they work together to create a living village. Humorous, warm-hearted and imaginative, everybody should see Sexo por compasión.

A Delightful and Probably One of the Weirdest Romance Ever

[claudio_carvalho · 9/10 · 10 May 2004]

In a small village in Spain, the middle-aged Dolores (Elisabeth Margooni) is a very good catholic woman, considered almost a saint by the villagers. However, her beloved husband Manolo (José Sancho) leaves her with the argument that she was too perfect, without any sin in her life. Dolores tries to find how she could commit a sin, and in the local bar she hears that the worst thing a woman could do to a man was to cheat him with another man. Dolores adopts the pseudonym of Lolita and has sex for compassion with all the men of the village. The local priest becomes jealous with the situation, since people compare Dolores with a saint and she raises money to rebuild the church. The small town becomes colorful and brightness with her attitude. Things change when Manolo returns to the village. This surreal movie uses the idea of the 1998 `Pleasantville', regarding to the use of black & white and colors to express the feeling of the villagers. The direction of Laura Mañá and the performance of the unknown cast are marvelous. The simple story hooks-up the attention of the viewer along the 109 minutes without being boring in any moment. The soundtrack is another magnificent attraction of this wonderful film. My vote is nine.

Title (Brazil): ` Sexo Por Compaixão' (` Sex For Compassion')

Salvation through sin, compassion and love

[Oskado · 9/10 · 11 December 2002]

This is a highly unique film, one I would consider more "expressionist" than surreal in style. The acting is wonderful, the art direction good, and the message elusively simple. The heroine - incredible as it sounds - makes sex with essentially every man in town: not once, but regularly. As a result, she attracts a congregation far larger than that of the local church, which is a story in itself. But what draws the men to bed with this plump, good-natured middle-aged woman who suffers an "excess of goodness"? Her compassion, her understanding, her charitable advice - all of it free.

In brief, while churchly figures may strive to avoid sin and devote their spirits to meditation and repentance, such self-centered acts do little to guide or succor or console their fellow man. This woman discovers - and wow!, with such a human and comic touch - that more can actually be achieved if we only sin a little.

It's difficult to say more without disclosing the whole plot - though actually, even if one knew the story in advance in full detail, the timing and expressive acting still would make it fun.

I'll add for clarity that this film contains no nudity and no foul language that I can recall (unless a reader would consider, e.g., "gilipollas" foul), and that it is "adult" most of all in the sense that only relatively thoughtful, intelligent people are likely to understand it - be they children or senior citizens.

Okay - one little gripe. I didn't really appreciate the humorous intrusion of the talk-show host for Univision's "Hasta en las Mejores Familias" or whatever the program's called. She appears as the enraged madam of the local brothel. I'm sorry. Really, I am. But if it'd been anyone from Despierta America, like the charming news person from Honduras, or Giselle or even their dog, I'd been happier. But not Mejores Familias! She was excessive.

Confused...

[ekokkinis · 5 July 2002]

I wanted to see this film, because I have read very good reviews. They said it was a hilarious comedy filled with sarcasm. I saw the movie and didn't laugh once. It was a sad movie, talking about people stuck with a reality they don't like and they try to change it. Or that is what I thought the movie was about. It confused me and I think the film doesn't have a message that is clear. Maybe the director and the writer didn't exactly know what they wanted to say in the first place. Anyway it is a good movie, with very good performances...I liked it.

The respectful housewife

[jotix100 · 5/10 · 3 September 2006]

Dolores, the plump wife of Manolo, is a pious woman. She goes to her local church to confess sins that are so ridiculous, even the priest has no patience for hearing her. At the beginning of the story, Manolo, her husband, abandons her and the dusty little town where they live in search of a more exciting life elsewhere. Dolores, who is left to fend for herself, is devastated.

One day she decides to change her name from Dolores to Lolita. With that, her whole personality takes a different trajectory. She always visits her friend Floren, the owner of the local bar where a lot of unhappy men tend to gather. The story of the dejected young man who has never have sex with anyone, affects her deeply and she decides to help this poor soul overcome his loneliness and shyness. The new Lolita is an instant hit in town. The local priest is the recipient of all the money going to Lolita from the appreciative males that come to her for a taste of her charms.

Basically, this is a story that wants to deal with a lot of subjects. The hypocrisy of the local church, the dreariness of the life in the small town, how certain women have to resort to being prostitutes, and the goodness of a woman who decided a bit late in life to change and do the things she wouldn't have dreamt when Manolo was around.

Laura Mana, the director, also wrote the screen play. The film is made more watchable by the presence of Elizabeth Margoni, who as Dolores/Lolita brings a new pride to the town while she does whatever to help the lonely men. Jose Sancho, an excellent actor, has nothing much to do as Manolo. Damian Alcazar, Pilar Bardem, Juan Carlos Colombo, Mariola Fuentes, are seen among the supporting players.

The film wants to deal with a lot of morality issues for its own good.

My faith in foreign films is restored with this one!

[mbggp · 9/10 · 26 June 2006]

I am sad that Elias did not see the humor in this movie. I found I could not stop laughing at how everything Delores (Lolita) did produced good even when she was trying to be bad. Even the cow was healed by her just being there! There were of course many other levels and emotions in this film...our human frailties were captured in an exquisite manner. How easily the men turned from thinking she was a saint to being ready to stone her sounds like the crowds in the Bible. I have a feeling I will be able to watch this movie several times and discover new meanings each time. The concept of good happening because of "sin" is not a common theme, and it was interesting to see the priest having such a hard time dealing with that as opposed to the villagers thinking the end justified the means.

My Spanish professor friend said that it was indeed set in Spain and not Mexico because of the dialect spoken.

DELIGHTFUL COMEDY

[jzina · 10/10 · 19 November 2000]

There is hope that filmgoers will fall in love with foreign film once again. This a charmer of the likes of Cinema Paradiso and Like Water for Chocolate. This is a lovely romp through an old Spanish Village where everyone knows everyone else's business. The most generous woman in town decides to help re-invigorate all the men in town by offering compassionate sex for the sake of improving family relationships. The town literally blossoms and life changes for the better. Sadly, the generous woman's life is empty until a delightful change of heart comes.

Charming, vibrant movie

[tomimt · 9/10 · 28 January 2006]

Sexo por compasión is a vibrant, vivid movie about a small Mexican village, where a local barkeeper Lolita (Elisabeth Margoni), who is abandoned by her husband Manolo (José Sancho) because of her saint like generosity, decides to help the sleeping village back to life.

It all begins, when a man, desperate from sorrow of his wife cheating on him, arrives in her bar and Lolita decides to teach the man what his wife must have felt after cheating him in order to get the man to forgive his wife. Soon all the men of the village come to her for council and before you know it the village gets it's colors back and life starts to blossom. The wives of the village are very pleased with the change, that happens in their husbands, in fact the only one, who doesn't like the situation is the local priest, who is jealous of Lolitas saint like influence towards the village.

Sexo por compasión is filmed half in black and white and color. The change happens, when the village springs into life. This is very nice effect in showing how the village changes and the change is noted even by the characters.

The atmosphere of the film is almost dream like. The tone isn't too serious and the humor is very soft and warm. This film is a definitive feel good film, which makes you believe in the goodness inside all men, even tough it's sometimes hard to get out.

If you see this film somewhere I recommend you to watch, it's very enjoyable, fluently directed film with very interesting characters. It's very rare to see movies like this.

Simplistic

[thecatcanwait · 16 November 2011]

I rarely feel much affinity with Spanish speaking films, especially when set in Latin America (this one's in Mexico) And yet another fantastical (as in "Spanish") Magic Realist fable.

Plus much Catholic preoccupation with sin and sinning. Plenty mucho of "God is punishing me". Oh dear. This is definitely not going to be my cup of cha.

I'm writing this as a i watch.

Plumptious Lolita is doing all the local whores out of business by servicing every sad bloke in town – for free. They all line up outside her bedroom; the door is closed; then come out half an hour later all loved up and shag-happy. What did she do? What does she give them? "Desire for self improvement" is the correct answer (the perfect blow job would be a very bad answer) You don't see any of the "action" (sex) or any of Lolita's special "loving". But lets just take it on trust: she's got the "magic touch".

Therefore the cure all for all known ills (including premature ejaculation) in the blighted town is stick it in chubby Lolita! Saves all the womenfolk the trouble of having it stuck up them. And the hubbies come back more cheerful after they've been seen to by her with these big soppy sloppy grins on. Shagging is sorted. Made wholesome. Guilt-free sinless sex. And sin shorn of guilt becomes unpunishable (from Him upstairs) Sinning is sorted too.

This lovely Lolita has – amazingly, as if miraculously – revitalised the desire to live, the desire to desire, in all who experience her. What a Saint she is.

I suppose if you like your subtitled foreign films to be feel good cumfy corny, easily digestible, with fat dollops of softly poached sentimentality plopped on top this is the film for you.

I'm possibly deliberately misinterpreting – wilfully distorting – the film. But as i won't be watching it again. this first impression will have to do. But when I don't feel sufficiently engaged by a film, the sympathy – the good willingness – is not active enough to want to understand it.

How to give love....

[ollie-2 · 8/10 · 3 February 2001]

This is the story of a drab and gray Mexican village, where life is boring. The main character is a wife, who mourns the unexpected leave of her husband. She learns that he left her because maybe she is a person without sins. So she wants to do terrible sins in the hope that her husband may return. Adultery proves to be one of the most terrible sins. Thus, she decides to sleep with other men. But miraculously, she helps the sad men who visit her. After sleeping with her, they find new energy in life and the dreary village comes to life again. At this point in the movie, the colour returns to the movie too. In the beginning the movie was shot in gray-colors, but now it turns to glorious colors. The movie is done as a comedy with plenty of laughs and funny situations, but there's a serious undertone of breaking through the macho-culture of Mexico. I found the movie very enjoyable and lighthearted. Recommended.

Soundtrack question

[dbronso · 8/10 · 4 December 2008]

I watched the movie as part of a Spanish study project. I am fairly new to foreign films in general and am fascinated by the different cultural ideas that come through. In this film, the story was very simple on one hand but on another level - greatly complex. Seeing the comedy of another culture other than the one I was raised in is possibly one of the most educational ways to understand that culture. I throughly enjoyed the movie and don't feel that I can improve on the improve upon the already great comments posted here, but...... I do have a question about the soundtrack? I am haunted by the song sung during the closing credits - its beautiful and the singer has a wonderful voice. Does anyone know who sings the song (and the title) which is on the closing credits. I've poured over all of the credits a dozen times and searched the musical composers, and a number of the other names, but can't find the song or artist. I don't think she was credited, but my Spanish is not good enough yet to know for sure. If anyone knows the artist or song, I'd greatly appreciate a comment.