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- Birth nameJeffrey Ross
- Ross Jeffries was born in September 1958 in the USA. He is an actor and writer, known for They Still Call Me Bruce (1987), Big Girl (2010) and Louis Theroux's Weird Weekends (1998).
- According to Paul Thomas Anderson, he was the main inspiration for Frank T.J. Mackey, Tom Cruise's character in Magnolia (1999). At the 2003 London Speed Seduction Seminar, Jeffries re-enacted Cruise's opening scene in Magnolia, complete with Richard Strauss' music as featured in the film.
- Originally I was looking for ways to solve my own problems, I was not attractive to women, I was afraid of women and had a lot of issues with approach anxiety. When I stumbled upon NLP I read a book by Richard Bandler and John Grinder and I immediately understood that I could use this to solve my own problems.
- I got two girls into bed up until 1987, that means I was...uh...I was born in 1958, you do the math. I was nearly thirty years old. Two girls! Terrible. Really terrible.
- Well today it's a new reality, not just because I have mad skills, but also I'm sort of a celebrity. "The Game" and Facebook really changed it for me. Now I have female fans from all over the world. But I still mostly rely on game. And I have to say, I'm 51 years old and my last girlfriend who I broke up with, this beautiful Swedish girl, was 21 years old. I get along with women under 30 a lot better. They're so much more fun and vivid.
- Well, I don't like bars. They're too noisy, and I don't like loud environments, but what I would do is walk up, I like to do a little preopener, I'd say...anything. First of all I would make a comment on the actual situation that is really funny. It all depends on the situation. A preopener can be anything, If she's alone I could say "I'm wondering what you're doing to keep all the guys away from you, cause it's not working on me." And then when she laughs "You know, I'm glad you laughed, it shows you have a sense of humor." It shows you have a sense of humor before you introduce yourself "my name is...". Now let's go through that opener. I walk up and I say"I'm wondering what you're doing to keep all the guys away from you, cause it's not working on me." Now that's a really funny way to pace her reality, cause the reality is there is no guys in there. I'm saying it in a funny way, so I'm getting rapport by pacing her reality, I'm showing her that I'm funny. And then there's the next part I do. This part is really crucial to make this work. When I say "I'm glad you laughed, it shows you have a sense of humor" , what is that doing? It's showing that I'm screening for something more then her looks, and that humor is important to me. I'm showing that I have standards. All of that is accomplished in the space of a minute. Women likes different vibes, and if you can show in the space of a minute that you have all the vibes, you're halfway home.
- There's two ways I could follow it up: I could follow up with a question that is designed to open up her imagination and emotions, or I could follow up with a fun game. It's a coin toss, 50/50, half the time I do the question, half the time I do the game. So the game will be something like this: "Let's play a little quiz that I've learned. It's called the Snack Quiz. Let's see if we are snack compatible. Cause according to scientists, 98 percent of couples who get along are snack compatible. So let's see. M&M's or potato chips?" No matter what she answers, the first answer is always wrong. Then I say "Ok, but it's two out of three...potato chips or chocolate bars?" We're just testing to see how she responds to that. The reason I go for this is because women likes games. Women are conditioned to respond to games. The format or subject isn't important, if it's a quiz or game. So I could start with a game or a question. Now that question is designed to open up her imagination.
So the the question I like to ask is "You know, I'm really curious, cause I've found out I really learn a lot about people by learning what really grabs their attention. So when you want to focus in, to give all you attention to do something you really love to do, what do you want to do? That question is designed to give her pleasure, and then I can play on that.
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