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7/10
Looking for Who?
cailus9 September 2023
Warning: Spoilers
A cute but simple love story set at Christmas. Writer Director Alexandra Swarens', this is her senior film. It has many of the things a family Christmas story would have, snow angels, a Christmas tree (even if it does lean a little to the left), but things here are deeper than they appear.

Reflective by nature, Swarens perceives life like someone who's lived it. She has a strong preoccupation with time and the holidays are a way of slowing it down. She's a hopeless romantic in every sense of the term. Obstacles to love include time, distance, or the other woman. Her supporting LGBQ casts are always real and likeable (you could expect to run into them anywhere, at the store or your own apartment building). She's highly sentimental. Her work is phlegmatic but blissful.

Olive (Swarens) is a down-on-her-luck working girl with a heart of gold doing what she can to make a living while pursuing an acting career. Taylor (Olivia Buckle) is a successful businesswoman looking for an actor to play her ex-girlfriend over the holidays. This she does to fool her parents who've never met her girlfriend and don't know they've broken up. Taylor's idea is half-baked at best but she's desperate. Olive is as well, so she accepts Taylor's offer. It might even be fun. Several glasses of wine will help, until everyone starts forgetting who's who. It's a straightforward premise. But there's something hiding beneath all those rosy cheeks. There are no pets or children at this tribal gathering. Uncle Harold is at least two lanes away from dirty-old-man syndrome and the story of the robbery is a little unsettling. No one is seen arriving and no one is seen leaving. Like the mysterious girl at the coffee shop, they come and go as if they were never there. First, Olive is introduced to Taylor's parents who warm up to her immediately, though she does have a close call when they probe for more details about what she does for work. Olive then helps the family prepare for the Christmas party but it prove challenging. (It's just my opinion, but if you have ten people at three and a half cookies per person, it's clear that some of those cookies will have to leave until the guests can bring more icing. No one will be spreading any holiday cheer if the turkey's dry and everyone's huffing fumes.) Taylor eventually realizes she's in too deep and wants to call the whole thing off. Olive, however, tells Taylor she should tell her parents the truth and even offers to do it with her. But things aren't as black and white as that because Taylor is afraid of hurting everyone's feelings. To cut a long story short, Taylor decides to tell her mom the truth only to find that she already knew, knew all along, knew about everything. But how? Her daughter's social media page (Yeah, Taylor, Duh!).

Swarens is proving herself a competent filmmaker. There are two major centerpieces. The first was the auditioning for Jess. A colorful array of characters is displayed. The heavier girl should have her own character in a TV series, and the bashful auditionee was sufficiently annoying. I'm guessing we didn't cut to Taylor because Olivia was trying too hard not to laugh (unless this clip an outtake). The second and main centerpiece is the family Christmas party. With so little room and even fewer people, this scene would be very difficult to shoot. But with skillful blocking, editing and sound Swarens pulls it off. This will come in handy for her on future projects. These same blocking and timing techniques can be used for any scene, whether it's a house, a store, a bank (of any kind), gas station or supermarket.

Swarens has also proven to be quite funny. The scene where Olive's car won't start, and then it begins to rain shows comedic timing. She was right to leave that in the script. The exchange between her and Kai rehearsing her lines near the end of the film was clever and very well acted.

A Christmas story is inevitably a family but it's a queer little family. Swarens has no social media to speak of, so all we can hope to learn of her is from her art in which she goes all in only, according to her, to disappoint herself (I hope that's not the case here). Looking through the fog we can see a few siblings. Older people seem to have been her primary caregivers, and she could possibly be a foster child. As a writer Swarens will draw from others' experiences as well as her own. It's not much to go by. There's definitely some sisterly rivalry, perhaps against someone who has a flair for the theatrical (the best villains always do), who's also artistic and knows the business like the back of her hand. I'm also seeing a third talented sister, one of extreme intelligence, perhaps more than the others, someone with the power and presence of mind to unite the other two (when she isn't egging them on) and keep the balance between art and commercialism. If these three silly sisters could team up somehow it would be a powerful trio indeed.

Here is what I think. Swarens was either raised by her grandfather or elderly foster parents. One of them passed away, then the other, and even more, dyeing off one by one, until that generation was gone, and when it died, much of Swarens' world went with it, and she drifted into wayward paths, finding heartache and desperation, but love as well, studying life, herself and people, capturing her thoughts in her writing and her art. Olive lays Taylor's head down on her pillow as if putting her to sleep, the same way her father did when putting Swarens to sleep, the same way little Alexandra did when putting her doll to sleep, and then kissed her forehead the same way she did when she laid her father to rest. An act of love, caring, and responsibility. But there's evidence she returned home after 7-8 years(?) so we may be chasing a Chimera.

Some might see the insinuation of a bed scene in a family movie a bit risky, but compare this with the bed scene in City of Trees (using the same co-star) and you'll see that Swarens here is showing incredible restraint. She's showing restraint throughout the entire film truth be told.

The real testament to Swarens' skill is in the final scene. It takes place on a semi-busy street near a bus stop which also would have been stressful to shoot (and even a little expensive). The lighting and the music were just right. The acting was just right. Any little girl would understand the body language and the emotion and will wish to live in that scene forever.

The overall impression is that Swarens is a master of her craft and a filmmaker who knows what she's doing. Wherever she decides to go she will do well.

Has Alexandra gone commercial? Or was she simply going back for more light, back to where it all started, gathering together her girlhood friends, handing each of them their parts, getting them to reenact her favorite scenes from her favorite movies. Maybe she finally reunited with her brother, or father, or both. It wasn't such a bad little tree. It's a good tree, really. It just needed a little love.
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8/10
Aw
natashabryan21 January 2024
Not a Christmas fan.

Not a romance fan.

A mixture of the two is usually enough for me to go sprinting into a new year.

The mixture of the two genres is usually pretty cringe to me.

Yet this one isn't.

I love this movie though - I love Alexandra Swarens. Anything she puts her mind to, is golden. She is severely under rated as an actress, as a producer... multi talented woman.

Alex and Olivia have amazing chemistry, in both this and City of Trees. Can't wait to see more from this duo in the neat future.

Gives me hope... then a crashing realisation that Alexandra isn't in fact my wife. Live and dream.
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10/10
These 2!
ldpum16 December 2022
Yes, I like City of Trees so yes I loved this and these 2. I can do another 10 years of cute queer xmas trope films. Have a lot of catching up to do. This doesnt need to be more than it is. A cute feel good lesbian xmas movie. The fact that it is a queer film already lifts the dialogue for me over similar non queer stories and plus the chemistry of these 2 is so sweet! This feels a little heavier than Under the Christmas Tree and Christmas at the Ranch as it should but I can watch all 3 often. So happy this was made and always happy to be surprised with more queer holiday content. Keep it going!
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10/10
A Feel Good Holiday Flick
A_S_872 January 2023
A feel good holiday flick. Yes,the beginning does feel somewhat stretched but an enjoyable movie nonetheless. The chemistry between the leads are amazing. Cinematography is good and doesn't give off that low budget vibe that many independent movies have. This could easily have been an Hallmark holiday movie.

Alexandra Swarens the writer, producer, editor, director and lead actor of this movie is a real gem. Her work is excellent, hopefully she continues to create content for a long time to come (and hopefully that content includes herself and Olivia ;-).

PS. If you enjoy the movie, do consider donating to her future projects, details on Violet Wave Production's YouTube channel.
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1/10
Amateurish At Best
johne-5595223 February 2024
Ignoring for a moment that the plot is one of the most time worn Christmas movie plots, there is at least room for good production values but alas there are none. Really bad script with unrealistic dialog. Truly terrible acting. Poor photography. Disjointed direction plus they didn't get get performances out of the cast. I guess the costumes were ok. I can only guess that all the 10s are because it's a lesbian feel good movie. There are some excellent Christmas movies with lesbian characters but this is a truly terrible example. It would take a Kristin Stewart to bail this one out. Don't waste your time. Watch a rerun.
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9/10
Cute holiday film
kidd10725 December 2022
Overall, this is a cute holiday movie. The two leads have good chemistry from the start, and it's refreshing to see how their attraction develops naturally and with minimal angst or contention. The drama between Taylor and her parents that led to the whole fake relationship setup is handled gracefully and tugs at the heartstrings in all the right places. The rapport among the actors playing Taylor, Olive, Cheryl, and Frank is so funny and warm that it would have been nice to see more screen time devoted to that and to the blossoming romance. As it was, the initial setup dragged quite a bit with almost thirty minutes of story before the two leads finally meet. But beyond that pacing issue, Looking for Her is a fun and adorable film I'd be happy to add to my annual holiday watchlist.
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10/10
Wonderfully charming, heartfelt, funny, and authentic - a vastly superior iteration of the holiday romance
I_Ailurophile17 December 2023
I absolutely loved Alexandra Swarens' 2019 film 'City of trees,' a sapphic holiday romantic comedy that was wonderfully heartfelt and sincere. When this 2022 film first crossed my radar it didn't come to my attention that Swarens was involved; the moment it did, however, the film immediately shot to the top of my list to watch. 'Looking for her' very quickly shows itself to be well in line with the filmmaker's prior kindred work, with the pacing and tone as gentle as snow softly falling on a night with no wind, and a fair bit of the humor, too. With the average picture, comedy or otherwise, this might surely be a mark against it, yet for as lovely and authentic as Swarens' style is as both a filmmaker and a storyteller, the approach manages to feel more natural. It's noteworthy that in contrast to 'City of trees' the production values are stronger here, and more polished; it's evident that Swarens has further developed her skills in every regard. Genuineness has not been sacrificed in favor of finesse, however, and it in fact remains the driving ethos of what the director does. With that in mind, even as this flick takes no few cues from the formulaic genre of cookie cutter TV holiday romances, it remains grounded first and foremost in maintaining believable dynamics, characterizations, and scene writing. The result, just as was true three years before, is one of the best modern Christmas movies you've never heard of.

There are tinges of more significant drama in these 100-odd minutes as we see the complications in Taylor and Olive's lives, be they related to work, family, or just social problems. Yet it speaks so well to Swarens that where other titles would get heavy-handed and bogged down in every sliver of obstacle or malfunction, even when a more substantial turn would seem to come in the last twenty minutes or so she maintains a supremely mindful, delicate touch. No matter the story element that's introduced, our protagonists remain centered, and with them the light, good-natured fun and budding lesbian romance. There is an active narrative on hand, but the core of the feature is really in the strength of the character writing, and the smooth, nuanced relationships between each figure; much of the fun here is simply marvelously ginger and endearing, yet the length is filled with plentiful bits that earn big, enchanted laughs, at times more than some more straightforward classics can boast. Whether flowing from situational humor, discrete gags, or sheer silliness, there is so much joy to be had here - to say nothing of how stupendously heartwarming and charming the romance is, and (again in contrast to the average dime-a-dozen Hallmark, ABC Family, or Lifetime variant) perfectly organic. From beginning to end 'Looking for her' is a delight, and that's never more true than when Taylor and Olive share scenes.

The whole cast is splendid, including Sophie Arrick and Robert Artz as bubbly, well-meaning parents Cheryl and Frank, and all those in smaller supporting parts, like Adrienne Ogle and Michelle Hakala Wolf. It goes without saying, though, that Olivia Buckle and Swarens herself are front and center as Taylor and Olive, and frankly I couldn't be more pleased with how excellent they are. Both actors illustrate superb, refined range and emotional depth, and are fabulously sweet and amiable all by themselves; I'd love to find more of their works. Together, Buckle and Swarens have incredible chemistry as scene partners, to the point that it's easy to forget that this is only a fictional story; one could be forgiven for thinking that the two are romantically involved in real life. Factor in Swarens' impeccably smart direction, orchestrating every shot and scene with exquisite deftness and intelligence, and in turn this little indie production lands with far greater, more meaningful impact than a preponderance of more well-known titles, and far more than I could have anticipated even based on my adoration of 'City of trees.' It's so unfailingly pleasant, tender, and downright beautiful in its earnestness that it even becomes a tearjerker in the best of ways, all while inspiring laughs and evoking only the most positive of feelings. To be blunt, how many major studio releases with A-list stars can truly do that? In fact, for as much as I love the aforementioned film, this is even better.

Swarens' editing is as sharp as her writing and direction; the costume design, hair, and makeup are lovely. From filming locations and sets to lighting and cinematography, this is solidly made in every capacity. It's that writing and direction that comes first and foremost, however, and above all the character dynamics as Taylor and Olive are spotlighted all the while - and for as steadfast as these aspects are, to be honest I couldn't even pretend to think 'Looking for her' is anything less than flawless. Countless are those flicks that populate the holiday romance genre, but most of them are barely distinguishable from one another (not to mention tiresomely heteronormative); most every movies aims to entertain and make an impression of some kind on their audience, but by no stretch of the imagination is every movie able to achieve these goals. Operating in her own corner of the industry, without any of the benefits of huge finance deals or household recognition, Swarens has now created a second feature within a well-trodden space, and a second feature that is vastly superior to and far more poignant and moving than what too much of the medium generally, or the genre specifically, has ever accomplished. I'm stunned and totally swept away by just how tremendous this is, and it's all but criminal that it's not more well known. Whether you're a fan of those involved, seeking something appropriate for the holiday season, or just looking for something enjoyable, I can only give 'Looking for her' my very highest, heartiest, and most enthusiastic recommendation: this is an utmost pleasure, and you're making a mistake if you pass it up.
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10/10
Cute, authentic and captivating!
guaxary25 November 2023
So refreshing and cute!

Great vibe, great actors and believable dialogues.

Funny moments but not cartoonish.

Queer but not preachy or educational about it.

Yes, you can tell it's an indie/low-budget production. Would be great to see this team being commissioned to make something for a big studio. I love Christmas movies cheesiness, but if we could get something in between the usual over-the-top Christmas decorations, fake snow and actors wearing sweaters and puffer jackets but no gloves or hats and this movie filmed in airbnbs with beige walls and no decorations whatsoever... And the 'cafe' that only serves drip coffee and always only has one consumer at a time? Chef's kiss :D.

I didn't think I'd like it, but a moment after I put it on, I knew I wanted to continue!
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10/10
So cute!
mdiasdemasi19 December 2023
The story doesn't go to great depths but it's so enjoyable to watch, it's worth the time!

Both leads are equally interesting and for my surprise there's some very funny moments!

I read a book with almost the same storyline, but has a notch compared to this one. The book name is Change Of Heart from Clare Lydon!

Get ready for a romance set in the Scottish Highlands, studded with lush scenery, sizzling attraction, a first kiss to make you weak, and lashings of family drama. Clare Lydon is the queen of British romantic comedies, and this story is guaranteed to leave you breathless.

Both are pretty interesting! Worth the watch and the reading!
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10/10
Looking for a Song
oliviaerdner7 January 2024
Does anyone know the name of the song that's playing when Taylor opens the necklace that Olive got her? She got it at the mall when she went with Taylor's mom. It's after Olive left. Taylor opens the gift in front of her parents, who are opening presents in the background. The time stamp around where the song starts is 01:24:40. I couldn't find the song on anything, I don't know if it was written by one of the cast members or what, but I really like it and really want to find it, so it would be awesome if you could help me find it. Otherwise. I really liked the movie, I've been watching a lot of lesbian Christmas movies, and this one is really, really good for an independent film!
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9/10
Different than the average Christmas story
johnallenit15 December 2023
We absolutely loved this movie. Its charm comes not from big budget or hallmark same old same old, but instead from a genuine, believable and well thought out story. Dialogue that felt unforced and delightful chemistry combined with creative camera work, moved the plot forward without being rushed.

Small details like actually having cocoa in the mug and sets that looked lived in were a nice touch that easily overshadowed any continuity errors (I hear it's incredibly difficult to film scenes with people eating or playing games and keep every shot the same).

The pace may not be for everyone and the family dynamic with healing generational trauma may feel out of place for a feel good Christmas movie, but by not relying on blatant or over used tropes and including a few playful twists it was exactly what this couple needed for Christmas.
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