Momma's Man (2008) User Reviews

Aggravating story about a man's regression to adolescence

[rasecz · 5/10 · 31 March 2008]

The problem with this film is not the acting, editing, and direction. Those are fine. The problem is the story. I found it aggravating.

A married man living in L.A. travels to New York City on business. He uses the opportunity to visit his parents in Manhattan. Reunited with his old bed, toys and comic books, this presumed mature man makes a gradual psychological descent into adolescence, reclaiming his status as momma's boy.

The whole film is taken by this slow and gently grinding descent. I simply could not connect with such a narrative. The only thing that kept me from exiting the theater were the parents, the sane side of this story. The mother is naturally happy to have her son back and be a well-meaning pain-in-the-neck while the sensible father becomes progressively more concerned with his son's infantile behavior.

This film is certain to draw radically opposite opinions. When I saw it, a number of people left after thirty minutes. Friends, associates and fans of the director gave him a standing ovation.

This movie is not on top of the world, Ma!!! But Boren is a good acting boy here!

[meeza · 7/10 · 19 June 2009]

Ay Momma Mia! Sometimes it takes decades for an offspring to completely disconnect from his parents. This thesis is authentically depicted in the independent film "Momma's Man". Writer-Director Azazel Jacobs tale is one of wily humor but also of heartbreak, fear, sociophobia, and regression. Matt Boren stars as Mikey, a Los Angelian married to a devoted wife and also father to a newborn baby. Mikey travels to his hometown New York on a business trip, and stays with his parents which are named in the film none other than Dad & Mom; and why not? They are portrayed by none other than Azazel's real parents Ken & Flo Jacobs. In NY, Mikey does succumb to a profound case of "I am not really to be a responsible daddy" syndrome. Therefore, Mikey "scared as a" Mouse decides to elongate his stay in his parents' Big Apple loft, which is the real abode where Ken & Flo Jacobs reside and Azazel grew up in. Mikey spends his time there regressing on the past by: playing with his old toys, reading & re-exploring his past artifacts, reconnecting with an ex-girlfriend, re-bonding with his childhood loony best friend, and living the mamma's boy life (hence the film title) by getting spoon-fed by Mom. At the same time, Mikey visits "excuse city" territory in trying to explain to his awaiting wife his overextended stay with Ma & Pa. Mikey also takes a couple of pedestrian trips around New York City, but with an apparent social phobic stride. I do commend Jacobs for his experimental techniques in telling a familiar predicament to many novice family men out there, but in a more subtle context without all the verbal exploits. However, it is very tedious to integrate sheer entertainment value in Jacobs' delicate direction of his slow-moving narrative; so at sporadic times, there was too much of the same. Nevertheless, Jacobs should be climbing up the thespian ladder in many years to come due to his idiosyncratic craftsmanship. Matt Boren's performance as the conflicted Mikey was restrained but yet remarkable. Boren should not have a boring, uneventful future acting career with turns like this. And the Ma & Pa acting shop of Ken & Flo Jacobs was also a very rewarding one with their astute characterizations of Mom & Dad. But at the end of the day, and excuse me for sounding like a momma's boy for this, I wanted more cinematic treats from "Momma's Man". *** Average

Where's the movie?

[briokid911 · 1/10 · 10 February 2010]

In order for me to enjoy a movie, I require things like character development, plot, a beginning, and an end. This movie contained none of these things. There was absolutely no way to empathize with the lead actor. I can't even call him a protagonist since there's no reason given for his inner conflict or a viable antagonist. My wife and I were left guessing throughout the film about the reason for this guy's sudden regression. With none given, not even a subtle hint, we're left to assume that this is just a jerk abandoning his family to act like a giant baby. I understand an independent filmmaker's desire to make a movie that asks more questions than it answers, and to portray realistic dialogue and human suffering, but at what point does it cease to be a subtle drama and become a confusing mess without character development? Must a writer/director fail as an entertainer in order to succeed as an artist? I think not. I say movies can be thrilling, funny, sad, frustrating, and totally engaging without sacrificing artistic merit. In the end, the writer of a movie is a storyteller, and it's lazy film making to think one can just throw a specific emotional state on screen and call it a movie. Don't waste your time.

An extraordinary film

[howard.schumann · 9/10 · 28 September 2008]

Living away from parents, having a job, a wife, and children are ingredients that suggest maturity but do not guarantee it. Mikey (Matt Boren), a recently married man in his thirties, comes from California to visit his parents in New York and falls into a psychological paralysis that keeps him from accepting the reality of his adult life. Shot in the actual loft on Chambers Street in which he grew up, native New York director Azazel Jacobs' extraordinary Momma's Man zeroes in on our inability to let go, complete the past, and move on. While his wife Laura (Dana Varon) and their infant daughter wait for him in California, Mikey returns from the airport to his parent's home, invents a story that the flight was canceled because of mechanical problems, and stays and stays. Ignoring his wife's urgent phone messages, he convinces himself that it is okay to stay for a while.

Jacobs, the son of experimental film director Ken Jacobs, has created a character in Mikey who has obvious problems yet whose sweetness reaches out to us even if we do not fully understand the source of his aberration or even believe that he could really be the son of two very intellectual artists, Ken and Flo (played by Jacobs' real parents). Settling into the claustrophobic yet oddly comforting environment of his childhood loft filled with gadgets, trinkets, paintings, and sculptures, he rummages through old letters, comic books, toys and the paraphernalia of his childhood, contacts an old high school girl friend to apologize for something the girl has completely forgotten about, visits a friend to watch old boxing videos, and takes up his guitar to sing a lame high-school song while mom and dad are trying to sleep.

Though mom and dad sense that something is wrong and ask him repeatedly what's going on, he tells them that he is fine, refusing to confront his demons. When pressed about his relationship, he makes up an affair for his wife as the reason he needs time away from her. Soon he is physically unable to leave the apartment and walk down the stairs to the street even though he fortifies himself with half a bottle of wine. Though his parents are caring, there is no truth telling and no sense of urgency. His mother offers him cereal with fruit and tells him that he can stay as long as he wants but seems unable to grasp the fact that he is sinking into a black hole.

Momma's Man is not just a film about pathology, however, but about universal human longing that has enough touches of humor that some have even called it a comedy. Whatever the genre you ascribe it to, it is a film of rare honesty and naturalness that hits us where it hurts. What makes it so unsettling is that Jacobs has reached a part of us that yearns to relive the warm comforts of childhood when all we had to do to feel self worth was to crawl into our mother's lap and close our eyes. Unlike Mikey, however, most of us can open our eyes, walk down the stairs and out the front door without looking back.

Are there this kind of man in the world ?

[ichocolat · 28 April 2009]

I watched this movie, and my reaction was mixed. I do not enjoy this movie as much as I hoped to (maybe because this movie is a tad slow and without climax, and because it dealt with matters that I do not feel connected to) but I know that this issue does exist.

The feeling that one have grown up and have responsibilities they have to shoulder, i.e having a family and jobs and own life, but at same time feels that one is not wanting to have all that, is real. There are some people who couldn't face reality and just wanted to break and return to their older life.

This movie dealt with real issues, and it does so without having to impose onto viewers whether to accept or not that this issue happens.

The length of the movie is not too long, but viewers who cannot comprehend the issue would find this movie a bore.

Terrible waste of time

[laltschuh · 1/10 · 21 January 2008]

I saw this movie at Sundance Film Festival last night and it was horrible.

This is the story of a guy with no life and no personality who can't face his own problems and instead refuses to leave his parent's apartment.

The plot drags along and the characters are painfully boring and uninteresting.

Dozens of theatergoers walked out in the middle of this film and I wish I had, I'm not going to be getting that time back.

Do yourself a favor and go see one of the other great independent films traveling the film festival circuit and dump this disaster.

i heart momma's man

[chickflx · 10/10 · 30 January 2008]

Having gone to Sundance for the last several years, I am always looking for the same thing, a movie that will truly inspire me not only as a person but as an artist as well, and every year I find it gets harder and harder to find such a film. This year that film was Momma's Man. The film was heartfelt, funny at times, and incredibly poignant. All the performances, were very real and nuanced. I especially loved the actors who played Mikey's parents. They seemed to have come from an Elaine May or Cassavettes(john not nick) film. I almost expected Gena Rowlands to make a cameo as the next door neighbor. What I enjoyed most about Momma's Man that it felt honest in a way that a lot of movies today don't seem to be. There was no artifice, there was no talking down to the audience. Instead, the director let me experience, not just watch, but experience the emotional journey that Mikey took. I wish more movies would do the same.

Boring, boring, boring

[leiser18 · 1/10 · 29 October 2008]

I don't know why everyone is raving about this film! I found it totally boring, uninteresting, stupid, and even aggravating. The characters are annoying, and what's the point of telling this story -- there is no story. The main character can't deal with his responsibilities and sequesters himself in his parents New York apartment, pretending he's a boy again. Don't waste your time seeing this crap. I should have walked out after the first 15 minutes, but I was hoping it would get better. It didn't. Another note: the apartment the parents lived in looked like an overstuffed warehouse. Maybe since the director/writer employed his real-life parents, it's their real-life apartment, too? Who would want to live in that clutter? Save your money and forget about Momma's Man!

INDEPENDENT OF ENTERTAINMENT VALUE

[MeNow22042021 · 4/10 · 1 October 2021]

A cinematic endurance test, tethered to a weakling character that nobody, mother included, would miss if he blundered into the bleak NYC winter night and never returned. Nice to see Richard Edson pop in; pity he had nothing to do.

The Best American Independent Film of the Decade?

[EncoprEsis · 10/10 · 29 January 2008]

With Momma's Man, Azazel Jacobs has shattered the promise of his wildly impressive The GoodTimesKid and delivered a statement of personal artistic expression so profound and moving that I am still holding back tears days after having seen it. While Jacobs' film addresses many different issues and themes, for me what makes it so tear jerking is that it is the most beautiful and touching love letter to one's parents (and, in turn, one's childhood home) that I have ever watched, heard, or read. Momma's Man is more than just a transcendent, extraordinary achievement in low-budget film-making. It is a work of rare, true artistry. I came to the 2008 Sundance Film Festival hoping to walk away with a film that I could champion. While I discovered a small handful of superior, exhilarating work, Momma's Man is the type of experience that I wouldn't have dreamed was imaginable. I have never been so affected by a motion picture in my life. I don't want to merely champion this film. I want to order every single person I know to see it. I want to scream at every single distributor to buy it. I want to watch it again right now. Until then, I will replay it in my mind and let new tears stream down my awed, thankful face.

read the rest of the review here: http://www.hammertonail.com/?p=37

Rarely is a film this good

[billyweeds-1 · 10/10 · 24 May 2009]

This is simply one of the finest independent films I've ever seen, a story told with minimal dialogue but maximum heart and soul. Anyone who can't understand why Mikey is scared to leave his parents' home (and there seem to be a few of those shallow folks writing on this board) should get into therapy right away. In any case, Azazel Jacobs has remarkable insight and considerable writing and directorial skill, and his parents are wonderful as the parents in the film. Meanwhile, Matt Boren seems not to be getting enough praise for his amazing performance as Mikey. He's a fine and resourceful actor with a very expressive face. This movie is marvelous, and a completely must-see.

Cautionary Tale for Us Parents

[maryszd · 9/10 · 17 December 2010]

A whimsical, but painfully true film about a young man whose parents have unintentionally made life so comfortable for him that it impedes his ability to leave home and be a functioning adult. Mikey comes home to NY from California (where he has a wife and baby) on a business trip and stays in his parents' wonderfully eccentric and bohemian loft. He sleeps in his old bed and pulls out his childhood toys and comic books. He invents excuse after excuse not to leave creating a web of lies and eventually becomes so agoraphobic that he can't leave the loft. His mom, a first-class enabler (the name of the film is so true) constantly asks "Is everything OK?" while simultaneously offering him coffee, tea, oatmeal, soup and home-cooked meals as she psychologically undermines him. His shrewd dad is caught in the middle, he doesn't wan't to upset his wife, but in going along with her and Mikey, he marginalizes himself. Mikey has a childhood friend who also seems to be overstaying his welcome at his mom's place, which suggests that this is a generational problem that's not Mikey's alone.

According to the notes, this film was shot in director Azazel Jacob's parent's loft with his actual parents playing the roles of Mikey's parents. One of the pleasures of the film is their fabulously old-time loft-pioneer living space. It's hard for the Mikeys of this world to create their own identity in the shadow of such gifted parents. Momma's Man is a slow-paced film with beautifully shot scenes of New York City (maybe this what Mikey really misses).